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As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum Dearly Beloved Asiatic Black Brothers & Sisters

This is for the girls who are being courted and you brothers who are courting them…

Apparently this subject is extremely relevant due to the fact that it keeps resurfacing. Thus, the blog…

I must give it from the M.G.T. perspective as it is SUPREME.

A Brother once told me that they were not allowed to give the Sister they were courting money. At the time I disagreed. Now, I see the Wisdom.

The object of courting is MARRIAGE.

Marriages only work when they are built on ISLAMIC principles. Both must be followers of THE MOST HONOURABLE AND HUMBLE ELIJAH MUHAMMAD (May the Peace and the Blessings of Allah forever be upon him.)

The Brother MUST initiate the process, in order for the relationship to be built on a firm foundation. He is not to approach the Sister himself. He should ask his friend (ideally his Captain) to ask her friend (ideally her Captain) to let the Sister know he thinks she would make a good wife and would like to enter into a Courtship with her.

Then, the only decent and intelligent gifts he should give and she should accept are flowers, cards and candy ONLY.

The idea is to romance her, right?

Remember, ALL DATES ARE CHAPERONED. YOU ARE NEVER ALONE!!!

So, if he plans a date in the Bahamas, you must refuse because we are also instructed to keep our engagements short!

If he gives you a credit card/cash, that’s like telling you I don’t need you. I just want you to need me. So, here’s some money to get you dependent on me. Then I can exploit you.

If he gives you a car, that’s like telling you you don’t need me. So, just take this car and go on and do whatever you want to do. Go somewhere else.

If he gives you jewelry, that’s like telling you I want everybody else to look at you and want you. That is equivalent to grooming you to be a prostitute. Muslim women don’t go out with the intention of attracting attention. We are completely opposite to Western women, whose primary objective is to attract attention. Muslim women are modest when we go out in the public. We cover ourselves from head to toe to PREVENT strange men from lusting after us. We wear our refinery at home for our husband’s eyes only.

The bottom line is, if you have HIM, YOU DON’T NEED ANY OF THOSE THINGS.

When he proposes, then you get the choice to accept him and the jewelry, cash, clothes, trips and cars (I still wouldn’t take the car. I don’t want to go anywhere without my husband.)

Brothers, diamonds are forever. Which is why they are the only acceptable type of ring to seal a marriage. You don’t need a ring to be my wife. Is unacceptable. You BOTH need rings to be official. It is Allah’s way of telling the world that you are each off the market. Even if YOU don’t think you need one, the people you come in contact with need to know.

Your wife needs TWO rings. The engagement ring MUST have a diamond, preferably a solitaire, to symbolize your undying love and attraction to each other. It’s like you stay engaged forever so the love never grows old.

The wedding band goes after the engagement ring to keep it in place and to show that your cipher is complete and neverending.

Sister, beware of Brothers who attempt to give you jewelry, clothes, cash, cars, expensive trips. These things appeal to GREED not LOVE. He will pimp you. Beware of terms of endearment, if it’s not personalized. He could be calling seven different women Baby, to keep from getting your names mixed up.

The idea is ROMANCE. Is there anything romantic about money? NO, it is vulgar and insensitive. You want something thoughtful that is personalized specifically toward you from him.

Brothers, put some thought into your courtship gifts. Always, write a personalized message to augment any pre-printed cards you give. Or skip the card and write her a Love Letter. 🙂 But don’t offend her.

Books are good too.  Sisters you can gauge his intelligence and ideology by the type of books he reads. It also gives you something to discuss.

Is there anything romantic about clothes? No, it’s impersonal and pushy. Accessories included. I’m offended just thinking about it.

I remember the love notes I used to get. Love letters are important because it’s putting your feelings on paper. You know? Making them concrete. I can recognize his handwriting and he can recognize mine because of love letters we wrote each other over thirty years ago. He wrote the track listing on a c.d. and I saw it and fell in love all over again. Just from the sight of his penmanship. ❤ ❤ ❤

Teach your children how to write in cursive, PLEASE. Taking handwriting out of school curriculum was the wickedest thing this country could have ever done to our children. It is one of the best ways to express your individuality and creativity. I know it’s because of this piece of steel and magnets I’m writing on now.

Brothers, don’t give the Sister cash/plastic or anything that can be returned for cash or plastic because I know how greedy some women can be.

I am living in the South for the first time in my life and was enthralled the first time I saw a field of wildflowers.  You know I picked some. They were new and exotic and beautiful. A gift of a bouquet of wildflowers from your heart would be a nice touch and every time she sees them in the future she will think of you.

LOVE YOURSELF. ❤