بسم الله الرجمان الرحيم
السلام علايكم
SPAGHETTI
RAMEN
WHAT IS THE DIFF?
RAMEN HAS LYE.
Sodium hydroxide, also known as lye and caustic soda, is compound with the formula NaOH. It is a white solid ionic compound.
CAUSTIC – able to burn or corrode organic tissue by chemical action.
بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم
السلام علايكم
Homelessness is not due to lack of affordable housing.
A HOUSE IS NOT A HOME….🥹
As Salaamu Alaikum 🥰🩷🌹☝🏿
BISMILLAHI RAHMANI RAHIM
WORDPRESS REMOVED THIS FROM HERE ALONG WITH OTHER PERTINENT INFORMATION FOR BLACK MUSLIMS. HERE IT IS AGAIN.
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
السلام علايكم و الرحمت الله و البركت
MIN AL RASUL ALLAH
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Chapter 23
Get Knowledge to Benefit Self
1 I am for the acquiring of knowledge or the accumulating of knowledge – as we now call it; education. First, my people must be taught the knowledge of self. Then and only then will they be able to understand others and that which surrounds them. Anyone who does not have a knowledge of self is considered a victim of either amnesia or unconsciousness and is not very competent. The lack of knowledge of self is a prevailing condition among my people here in America. Gaining the knowledge of self makes us unite into a great unity. Knowledge of self makes you take on the great virtue of learning.
2 Many people have attempted to belittle or degrade my followers by referring to them as unlettered and
unschooled. They do this to imply that the believers in Islam are ignorant. If such a claim were so, then all the more credit should be given for our striving for self-elevation with so little. But truth represents itself
and stands by itself. No followers, nor any other people are more zealous about the acquiring of knowledge than my followers. Throughout the Holy Qur’an, the duty of a Muslim to acquire knowledge is spelled out.
3 My people should get an education which will benefit their own people and not an education adding to the “storehouse” of their teacher. We need education, but an education which removes us from the shackles of slavery and servitude. Get an education, but not an education which leaves us in an inferior position and without a future. Get an education, but not an education that leaves us looking to the slave-master for a job.
4 Education for my people should be where our children are off to themselves for the first 15 or 16 years in classes separated by sex. Then they could and should seek higher education without the danger of losing respect for self or seeking to lose their identity. No people strive to lose themselves among other people except the so-called American Negroes. This they do because of their lack of knowledge of self.
5 We should acquire an education where our people will become better students than their teachers. Get an education which will make our people produce jobs for self and will make our people willing and able to go and do for self. Is this not the goal and aim of the many foreign students who are studying in this country?
Will not their students return to their own nations and give their people the benefit of their learning? Did not Nkrumah return to Ghana to lead his people to independence with the benefit of learning he acquired here in America and elsewhere? Did not Dr. Hastings Banda return to give the benefit of his education to his people who are striving toward freedom and independence in Nyasaland? Did not Nnamdi Azikiwe of Nigeria give the benefit of his education to the upliftment and independence of his people. Does not America offer exchange scholarships to smaller, weaker and dependent foreign governments so their students will acquire knowledge to aid the people of those countries? Then why shouldn’t the goal in education be the same for you and me? Why is scorn and abuse directed toward my followers and myself when we say our people should get an education which will aid, benefit and uplift our people? Any other people would consider it a lasting insult, of the worst type, to ask them to refrain from helping their people to be independent by contributing the benefit of their knowledge.
6 Get an education, but one which will instill the idea and desire to get something of your own, a country of your own and jobs of your own.
7 I recall, in 1922 or 1923, when a debate was taking place in Congress concerning appropriation of funds for Howard University, a school set aside to train my people, in the nation’s capital. A senator said this, and it is in the records to be examined in effect: What would be the need of the government appropriating money to educate Negroes? He said that they would not teach our people the science of modern warfare (defense), birth control or chemistry. He knew these were the things free people must know in order to protect, preserve and advance themselves. We have not been able to protect, preserve and advance ourselves. This shows the slave-master has been very successful in dominating us with an education beneficial to him. There is a saying among us, “Mother may have, father may have, but God blesses the child who has it’s own.” It is time we had our own.
8 I want an education for my people that will let them exercise the right of freedom. We are 100 years up
from slavery. We are constantly told that we are free. Why can’t we take advantage of that freedom? I want an education for my people that will elevate them. Why should we always be lying at the gate begging for bread, shelter, clothing and jobs if we are free and educated? Do not get an education just to set it up as some useless, symbolic monument to the black man in the Western Hemisphere. We need an education that eliminates division among us. Acquire an education that creates unity and makes us desire to be with our own.
9 The acquiring of knowledge for our children and ourselves must not be limited to the three R’s ‘ – ‘reading, ‘riting and ‘rithmetic. It should instead include the history of the black nation, the knowledge of civilization of man and the universe and all the sciences. It will make us a greater people of tomorrow.
10 We must instill within our people the desire to learn and then use that learning for self. We must be
obsessed with getting the type of education we may use toward the elevation and benefit of our people – when we have such people among us, we must make it possible for them to acquire this wealth which will be beneficial and useful to us.
11 One of the attributes of Allah, The All-Wise God, Who is the Supreme Being, is knowledge. Knowledge is the result of learning and is a force or energy that makes it’s bearer accomplish or overcome obstacles,
barriers and resistance. In fact, God means possessor of power and force. The education my people need is that knowledge, the attribute of God, which creates power to accomplish and make progress in the good things or the righteous things. We have tried other means and ways and we have failed. Why not try Islam?
It is our only salvation. It is the religion of Allah, His prophets and our forefathers.
Note how everybody in the audience is devils. We could not perform for our own family and friends because all of the shows were segregated. Also we had to eat in the kitchen.
MIN AL MUBALAGAH
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
السلام علايكم و الرحمت الله و البركت
As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum Beloved and Beautiful Asiatic Black Ukhtis!!!
So stoked about this issue! 🙂 The WHAT’S UP? column is blowing up! I really enjoy giving my unusual opinion on issues. This time, Homegirl who’s bestie got married and igged her, just had a baby! So cheah… Guess? is back! They have a whole GUESS? website, but imho, the sk8r jeans are the best.
I really pondered the brand name and concluded that it is really ingenious. Did this imaginary convo…
Me – Guess?
You – Tell!
Cool, huh? Simple is so the thing right now!
The chapter in MESSAGE TO THE BLACKMAN – Get Knowledge To Benefit Self – is one of my absolute faves! When I was an undergrad back in the mid-nineties, it was a big point of contention for Black People to “give back.” Since the fifties, it was a thing to get a degree then get lost among whites in suburbia. Then came The Civil Rights and then The Black Power Movements wherein Black college grads began to be held accountable for using their knowledge to establish businesses and organizations within the Black Community instead of just for their own personal gain or corporate ambition.
One of my fave sentences is “Do not get an education just to set it up as some useless, symbolic monument to the black man in the Western Hemisphere.“
That is so profound to me.
Your college education is just used to promote the generosity of our slavemaster. As an example of what he is now doing for his slaves. They have college degrees now! They can tell the world.
But your college degree does absolutely nothing for the progress of our people! ZERO!
It is incumbent upon those of us who have any type of college education, in my humble opinion, to use what you have learned to uplift us as a people.
“We must instill within our people the desire to learn and then use that learning for self. We must be obsessed with getting the type of education we may use toward the elevation and benefit of our people – when we have such people among us, we must make it possible for them to acquire this wealth which will be beneficial and useful to us.”
EDUCATE
ELEVATE
CREATE
NOW IS THE TIME TO ENROLL IN COLLEGE FOR THE SPRING 2026 SEMESTER!!! GET IT!!!
GUESS? –
UGANDA OPENS FIRST LARGE-SCALE GOLD MINE
President Yoweri Museveni also outlined plans to utilise the revenue from gold exports to develop national assets including power stations and the country’s railway infrastructure.
Uganda is currently constructing a $3.1bn (Ush11.03trn) standard gauge railway to facilitate cheaper transport of exports and imports via Kenya.
The landlocked East African nation is also rich in minerals such as copper, cobalt and iron ore.
According to central bank data, gold exports brought in $3.4bn for the nation last year, accounting for around 37% of Uganda’s total export revenue.
What’s Up?
QUESTION: My husband suffered a heart attack recently and I am having trouble getting him to eat the healthier food options.
ANSWER: CHECK OUT THE SIMPLE, HEALTHY AND DELICIOUS RECIPES HERE and let me know how it goes! 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤
AGAIN – HOW TO EAT TO LIVE NUTRICIOUS AND DELICIOUS RECIPES! 🙂 ❤ ❤ 🙂
QUESTION: My bf and her hubby recently celebrated the birth of their first baby. I feel neglected. 😦
ANSWER: 
I have answered the same type of issue when your bestie got married, Sister. If you are truly a best friend, you have to come to grips with your status in the friendship. If you are truly a best friend, that usually is followed by FOREVER, so Sis, realize one thing. YOU ARE THE DUFF. Maybe not necessarily fat and ugly but definitely bringing up the rear. Okay? Face that fact. OWN IT.
But honestly, Sister, if you can maintain your friendship after these two major life hurdles, then your comraderie should stay intact for life. MARRIAGE AND CHILDREN are the most important aspects in a person’s life. Pretty much the only things that are forever – guaranteed. Jobs and education, maybe legal disputes are secondary to these two.
So, you managed to maintain through the newlywed stage, now on to phase two. BABIES!!! 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤
Sister, I have to admit, when it comes to children and advice from me, EVERYTHING COMES SECOND TO THE CHILDREN!!! AND I MEAN, EVERYTHING!!!!!
So, be there and “Oooohhh!!!” and “Aaaaaahhhh!!!!” like you supposed whenever she calls gushing!!! Swallow it up and Lay it on! Go overboard! That’s your BESTIE!!! And her little Angel! And GUESS WHAT,
Best Friend??? TWIN. YOU JUST GOT PROMOTED TO AUNTI!!!! What’s better than that???
I mean, really, Sister. WHO doesn’t love babies, and toddlers, and children, and pre-teens and adolescents and twenty-somethings, and thirty-somethings…..??? The love! The fun! The passion! The energy!!!
I would just go on ahead and get to know everybody who works in the Macy’s children’s department. (My local store acquired the now defunct TOYS ‘R US chain!) I love just walking through that department. Even though Mine are in their twenties and thirties and I know no children to buy for, sometimes I just buy and give toys that I particularly love to strangers. SMH
Last Christmas, they had sk8boards for $25!!!! O.M.G. I think I bought them all. LOL!!! 🙂 Okay, maybe seven out of ten….
Aunti, consider yourself BLESSED to be in such close proximity to a new baby!!! So lucky!! You should be thanking Allah for allowing you to be near such adorableness!!!! “Ga ga goo goo!!!” I AM SO STOKED!!! 🙂 🙂 🙂
But cheah, once you get acclimated to your new number three status, purchase a thermos and portable dish containers, ’cause you and your bestie are gonna be having tea at her place for a minute!!!
Remember, she is going to need you to help her when she gets weary – new babies and a husband can be alot for novices. Keep your phone near. She will need your ear and eye when baby accomplishes yet another amazing, incredible and totally AWESOME first. 🙂
Photo albums are making a comeback, Aunti. SPLURGE! Start a Scrapbook! Baby will love you for it later! ❤ ❤ ❤
Prepare meals for your best friend sometimes. She’s probably going to be tired and would really appreciate the bestfriendly gesture. 🙂 Visit often and always bring something for baby and/or some bubble bath, body oils, jewelry or other pamper me stuff for the new Mommy. 🙂
When baby is napping, discuss current events and other interesting adult topics (like fashion, art, new advances in science and technology) that she might have missed while engrossed in new baby stuff… Help with her hair, nails, etc… In general, just enjoy this wonderful time in life. Use it as an excuse to CELEBRATE!!! ❤ ❤ ❤ 🙂
And…
STAY UP!!!! 🙂 ❤ ❤
p.s. It doesn’t hurt to inquire into bestie’s hubby’s acquaintances again….. 😉 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤
SPOTLESS: OTTOMANS
SULTAN OSMAN I (born c. 1258—died 1324 or 1326) was the ruler and founder of the Ottoman Turkish Empire. The English variation of OTTOMAN is derived from his True Arabic name – ʿUsmān or Uthman.
Accordingly, his reign can rightfully be remembered as an era of great wealth and comfort. Forever dovetailed in the symbolic naming of the piece of furniture most associated with relaxation and comfort – aptly named after him and his exquisite empire – THE OTTOMAN….
If you will notice, the Sultan is reclining on one of his namesake items of furniture in the painting…
Often doubling up in usage, for storage as well as relaxation…. 🙂 🙂
These are also known as “POUFS” so as to distinguish them from the more traditional “ottomans” that sit on four legs on the floor.
Often a chair will pair with a matching ottoman
F.O.I.
My uncle once told me, when I was asking everybody older than me what they remembered about The Black Power Movement, that he only went to BLACK PANTHER meetings to meet girlz…
Rest in Love, Sister! ❤ ❤ ❤ Shukran! 🙂 You may have inadvertently invited many Private Soldiers to FALL IN! SALUTE! ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤
JUNIOURZ:
BLACK LOVE!!! ❤ ❤ ❤
FASHION PLATES: GUESS?
MORE THAN OVERALLS….
DESIGNED FOR SK8RS – GUESS? JEANS MAKES A COMEBACK.
Also, the tentative new title for the news segment. 🙂 🙂
BUT NOT MUCH… 🙂 STICK TO DENIM. FOR THE MOST PART… ❤ ❤ ❤
I don’t wear jeans, however for the Bros; If you sk8, these are a must have! 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤
SPOONZ:
HAUTE CUISINE
ETIQUETTE: TAI JI QUAN
When I was still with Louis Farrakhan and his followers, one Saturday during M.G.T. & G.C.C. we were invited to participate in a Tai Chi exercise.
Since then I have participated in many classes, studied on my own and just generally have come to love the tradition and all that it represents.
In my four and fifty years, I have seen fads come and go; trends rise in popularity only to fall once again.
But when something is truly for you, it is genuinely a part of you and remains throughout your life regardless of its general popularity. So, it is with sk8ing, Kwanzaa and now Tai Chi’s popularity is plummeting once again.
The art is a part of ANCIENT CHINESE MEDICINE and has been practiced since the days of THE YELLOW EMPEROR (2697 BC).
When I was first introduced to it about thirty years ago, it was primarily and fundamentally simple – a thirty-minute choreographed routine.
Since then it has devolved into nothing but warm-up exercises completely devoid of the POINT!
I have had the most difficulty finding a video of the original, approximately five thousand-year-old routine!
Also, I refuse to learn an art or science that is a cultural part of a certain society from a non-member of that society.
Typical of the devil, they have travelled the earth and after learning the ancient ways of indigenous people, killed them, stole their land, enslaved the survivors and exploited the natural resources.
And as if that wasn’t enough, they then charge the remnant of remaining aboriginals to teach their children their own ancient culture: language; foods; music; ourstory; etc.!
Particularly popular among Seniors, I have met Tai Ji practitioners in their eighties, who are just as agile as any sk8r. Most have been practicing the art for at least thirty-five or forty years or better. Easily accounting for their premium physical health.
What I love most about the practice is the concept of Tai and Ji.
Tai, from my studies, means flow.
Ji, the root word of INNER JI (energy), is basically the force that gives life to living beings.
Tai Ji is a series of movements that facilitate the smooth flow of INNER JI, throughout the human body.
The regular practice of TAI JI enables the physical body to ensure there are no blockages in the JI passageways ensuring optimum health and harmony between all body systems resulting in a peaceful countenance and thus, a relaxed state of being and optimum mental and physical health and longevity.
The most important aspect, which often goes overlooked, in the growing popularity of the movement, is the importance of the continuous flow of movement.
Al Hamdulillah, I was able to find this video.
I pray Allah, it helps you balance your life demands, through another pause in your schedule, in addition to the five daily prayers 🙂 , wherein you can totally relax and lose yourself in the movements.
Free your mind and let the OUTER JI from sunshine and fresh, crisp Autumn gales purify and enhance your INNER JI releasing any blockages and/or negativity in your body, ultimately resulting in a clear, sharp and sound mind and agile body.
AS-SALAAMU ‘ALAIKUM!!!! 🙂 ❤ ❤
UMMZ
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
MIN AL RASUL ALLAH
MIN AL MUBALAGAH
As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum My Beloved and Beautiful Sisters!
Summer did not want to go out, but like all other SUMMERS – WE WILL SEE YOU NEXT YEAR: In Sha Allah.
Welcome Autumn.
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE AU WORDS!!!! I MADE A LIST!
SHOUT OUT TO BROTHER JAH AURA – I originally was consulted on the spelling of your name “Just spell it the way you spell it” 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤ I like how you made it your own.
AUTUMN
AUDIENCE
AUSPICIOUS
AUSTIN
AUESOME 🙂
AUDACIOUS
AUDIO
AUSTRALIA
AUTHENTIC
AUXILIARY
AUTHORITY
AUDIBLE
AU REVIOR
AUNT
AUSTERE
AUTO – MOBILE, BIOGRAPHY, CRAT, GRAPH, MATIC, NOMOUS
AUBURN
AUDREY
🙂 🙂 🙂
My project now is to research poetry on this wonderful SEASON 🙂
GUESS? – WHAT’S UP?
QUESTION: My fiance’s bff makes me uncomfortable.
ANSWER: You cannot marry him – FUTURE PROBLEMS. STAY UP THO. To give you more reason, Sister. Consider this. Usually a person’s friends are an indication of that persons character. Your fiance is BEST friends with this person who makes you uncomfortable. Take his choice of a BEST FRIEND as a good indication of your fiance’s character.
Birds of a feather….
Unfortunately, a person’s true colours may not be revealed until after you have gotten in over your head.
Get out now.
My advice is always to adhere to RED FLAGS.
THE FIRST RED FLAG.
There are plenty of fish in the sea. MARRIAGE IS FOREVER. Your fiance’ comes with his bff.
You can give him an ultimatum. Talk about it but be firm in your decision. BEST friend is not a casual acquaintance.
I am afraid he may be deceiving you, Dear Sister. Ultimately ONLY YOU can protect YOU.
MARRIAGE MEANS YOU ARE ONE-HALF OF YOU NOW AND FOREVER. And thus, less able to protect yourself iow in an inferiour position. Especially to a BEST FRIEND.
You or the homie. He will have to cut one of you loose. Or you cut him loose and save yourself before you find yourself singing “Tyrone.”
I know it is not easy. But it will be more difficult later.
Best wishes for the future. Don’t compromise yourself. It will only get worse. MARRIAGE IS FOREVER!
STAY UP! 🙂
***NOTE:***
Sisters, please do not “like” a Brother until you are sure that he likes you.
It is so easy when you accept that
HE HAS TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE.***
QUESTION: My boss hired relative and now I’m ignored.
ANSWER: As with all work related problems, you have two options.
#1 Stay and pray things get better
#2 Give your two weeks and two fingers 🙂
I always recommend working for yourself anyway. You can take your skills and become your own boss and won’t have to stress. Stay Up!
Please let me know if you follow any of my suggestions. I would like to know how it worked… Shukran! 🙂
SPOTLESS:
Colder seasons approaching and I absolutely LOOOOVE HALAL S’MORES!!!! 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤
S’MORE SEASON
* HALAL MARSHMALLOWS
* CHOCOLATE BARS
* HONEY CINAMMON GRAHAMS
* LONG WIRE (CAN BE PURCHASED AT ART STORES OR HARDWARE STORES)
MMMMMMMMM……. 🙂
THEY HAVE THIS AT WALMART
MAKE SURE TO GET HALAL/KOSHER!!!!
F.O.I.
BELOVED BROTHERS: WHILE PROTECTING US, PLEASE TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR OWN POST FIRST!
PROTECT YOURSELF FIRST! THEN AND ONLY THEN; YOU CAN PROTECT US.
HOW TO TAKE CARE OF OUR HUSBAND.
I don’t have one so you can take my advice with whatever amount of trust you feel.
But this is what I would do. 🙂
JUNIOURZ:
She needs a sk8parkskullee 🙂
HAVE YOUR CHILDREN PREP A PRESENTATION: “WHAT I DID DURING THE SUMMER”
It can be written, visual, audio or a painting, or anything they can conceive.
I think it would be cool if we all did it. 🙂
I did it.
WHAT I DID THIS SUMMER – BY UMM HAKIM
That’s about it.
Super Proud of myself. I felt shy about posting it. But if I want you to do; I believe in leading by example.
I don’t think anyone should ask anyone to do anything that they themselves have not done.
Especially educators. Every assignment should be completed by the instructor also.
Dig this. Why do teachers need a guide?
So yeah, I would love to hear how you spent your SUMMER 2025.
Email – whatsup@homemakingfortheblackwoman.com!!!
FASHION PLATES:
I really want to devote an entire issue to AUTUMN FASHIONZ so please stay tuned…. 🙂
Meanwhile…..
I searched LOUNGEWEAR thinking AUTUMN COOL DAYZ INDOORZ AND FOUND…
ATTERSEE….
THE PRICES ARE BANANAS BUT IF YOU SEW….. 🙂 🙂 ❤ ❤
The jist is form fitting to loose bell and assymetrical hems in JERSEY KNIT. 🥰
SPOONZ:
Someone on my fb timeline posted seeing more sick people and more people breaking out masks again.
I also noticed COLT’S FOOT growing around the neighborhood.
It only grows where necessary.
For that reason, I am reposting a cure for
*colds/influenza
*cough
CORONA VIRUS DISEASE IS A SUPERGERM.
ESSENTIALLY IT IS A COMMON COLD BUT LIKE ON STEROIDS.
INFLUENZA IS A BACTERIA. MORE CONTAGIOUS THAN A VIRUS WITHIN YOUR BODY.
SUPERGERMS HAVE EVOLVED TO THE POINT WHERE MODERN PHARMACEUTICALS (IN PILLS AND LIQUID FORM) ARE USELESS AGAINST THEM.
WHOLISTIC NATURAL REMEDIES ARE THE ONLY WAY TO KILL THEM.
PLEASE DO NOT PROCRASTINATE.
IT IS MUCH EASIER TO GET RID OF AN ILLNESS IN THE WEAK, PRELIMINARY STAGES THAN TO TRY TO FIGHT IT OFF AFTER IT HAS GROWN IN STRENGTH AND SICKNESS.
USE THE REMEDY AT THE FIRST COUGH, STUFFY NOSE, PLEASE DO NOT LET IT PROGRESS TO FEVER!!!!
KEEP IN YOUR APOTHECARY –
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BEST SAWCE!!! 🙂
VINIAGRETTE + CREAM ❤ ❤ ❤
Feel free to add erbs or other garniche
ETIQUETTE:
ALWAYS SIT LIKE GOOD GIRLS!
THE IMAGE ON THE LEFT IS THE CORRECT ONE.
DO NOT CROSS LEGS. IT IS BAD FOR YOUR CIRCULATION.
JUST SIT STRAIGHT WITH YOUR KNEES TOGETHER.
FEET FLAT ON THE FLOOR.
VERY BORING. VERY HOMEY.
VERY RIGHT AND EXACT.
🙂
Notice the spine in the image. Very correct, ensuring no back problems!
IN CONCLUSION…
BISMILLAHI RAHMANI RAHIM
Min Al Rasullallah:
Min Al Mubalagah:
Guess?
The leaders of KOREA and RUSSIA had Shai!
Spotless:
Install BIDETs
Juniourz:
Teach to BIDET
F.O.I.:
FASHION PLATES:
sk8r couples gear:
SPOONZ:
SHAI: YAZMIN ZAN
ETIQUETTE:
Parents NEVER EVER EVER make your children feel like they owe YOU!!!
YOU OWE THEM FOREVER.
SUPPORT
ENCOURAGEMENT
GUIDANCE AND ADVICE
MONEY WHENEVER THEY NEED IT.
Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim
BISMILLAHI RAHMANI RAHIM
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LET US BRING HER HOME!!!
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
السلام علايكم و الرحمت الله و البركت
الحمد لله سبحن الله الله اكبر
As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum My Beautiful and Beloved Asiatic Black Ukhti of THE GREAT TRIBE OF SHABAZZ OF THE NATION OF ISLAM! ❤ ❤ ❤
I got the email for the website as you can see above, so if you have any questions or comments PLEASE hit me up! 🙂
I have a few questions to answer, but this one seems so important, I am going to address it, with the Help of Allah, first:
Domestic Abuse:
If the person is not your LEGAL SPOUSE, just break up with him or her.
He or she has issues that need to be resolved before growing into a deeper relationship. So get out NOW!
I would advise the person to seek professional help and then… you can call me again… ❤ ❤ ❤
She is Muslimah and has a degree from IVY LEAGUE UNIVERSITY – PENNSYLVANIA STATE.
I was erroneously calling her a PSYCHOANALYST. She quickly corrected me. She is a PSYCHOTHERAPIST.
There is a big difference between ANALYSIS and THERAPY.
Analysis is just what is sounds like. Diagnosis if you are lucky.
She not only analizes and diagnoses, but she provides a SOLUTION, in the form of PSYCHOTHERAPY.
Give her a call. 🙂
*SUPER BONUS* All of her prescriptions are HERBAL!!! YES!!!! She has designed and manufactured a special formula of herbs and plant-based remedies for every psychological ailment!
According to the HOLY QUR’AN, physical discipline by a husband toward his errant wife has distinct STEP BY STEP instructions.
اَلرِّجَالُ قَوّٰمُوۡنَ عَلَی النِّسَآءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللّٰہُ بَعۡضَہُمۡ عَلٰی بَعۡضٍ وَّ بِمَاۤ اَنۡفَقُوۡا مِنۡ اَمۡوَالِہِمۡ ؕ فَالصّٰلِحٰتُ قٰنِتٰتٌ حٰفِظٰتٌ لِّلۡغَیۡبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللّٰہُ ؕ وَ الّٰتِیۡ تَخَافُوۡنَ نُشُوۡزَہُنَّ فَعِظُوۡہُنَّ وَ اہۡجُرُوۡہُنَّ فِی الۡمَضَاجِعِ وَ اضۡرِبُوۡہُنَّ ۚ فَاِنۡ اَطَعۡنَکُمۡ فَلَا تَبۡغُوۡا عَلَیۡہِنَّ سَبِیۡلًا ؕ اِنَّ اللّٰہَ کَانَ عَلِیًّا کَبِیۡرًا ﴿۳۴﴾
4:34 Men are the maintainers of women, with what Allah has given – some of them above others – and with what they spend out of their wealth. So the good women are obedient, guarding the unseen as Allah has guarded. And those on whose part you fear desertion, admonish them, and leave them alone in the beds and turn them away. So if they obey you, do not seek a way against them. Surely Allah is ever Exalted, Great.
وَ اِنۡ خِفۡتُمۡ شِقَاقَ بَیۡنِہِمَا فَابۡعَثُوۡا حَکَمًا مِّنۡ اَہۡلِہٖ وَ حَکَمًا مِّنۡ اَہۡلِہَا ۚ اِنۡ یُّرِیۡدَاۤ اِصۡلَاحًا یُّوَفِّقِ اللّٰہُ بَیۡنَہُمَا ؕ اِنَّ اللّٰہَ کَانَ عَلِیۡمًا خَبِیۡرًا ﴿۳۵﴾
4:35 And if you fear a breach between the two, appoint an arbiter from his people and an arbiter from her people. If they both desire agreement, Allah will effect harmony between them. Surely Allah is ever Knowing, Aware.
This is such a crucial topic – MARRIAGE!!! I think it necessary to expound so that there is no misunderstanding.
And those on whose part you fear desertion, admonish them…
According to MERRIAM-WEBSTER:
ADMONISH – (verb) – admonished; admonishing; admonishes
a. to indicate duties or obligations to
b. to express warning or disapproval to; especially in a gentle yet earnest or solicitous manner
ex. The students were admonished for being late.
ex. Before riding their bikes, their parents admonished them to be careful.
ex. Public computer users are admonished to change passwords regularly.
And those on whose part you fear desertion, admonish them…
I never even considered the first part. I just migrated the instruction to include any type of insubordination.
If the definition for “desertion” is taken more abstractly, it could mean mental desertion. Not actual desertion.
Per haps the wife is showing signs of distraction. She has something on her mind and is neglecting her homemaking duties.
First, admonish her by
a. to indicate duties or obligations to
“Honey, I noticed you have fallen behind in your housekeeping… There are still dishes in the dishwasher, and the baby’s pants still need a hem. What’s going on? (with a hug and a kiss) ❤ ❤ ❤ 🙂 “
Talk about it. In my experience, most times, the person doesn’t even realize that something is amiss! Gently, delineate that you have noticed a change… ❤ ❤ 🙂
b. to express warning or disapproval to; especially in a gentle yet earnest or solicitous manner.
Solicitous just means gentle yet earnest. 🙂
So again, he is supposed to appeal to his wife in a gentle, solicitous manner, ideally discovering the ROOT of the problem. What is on her mind that has her behaving thusly? Discuss it. Amend it. Move on.
🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤
If she persists, “leave them alone in their beds turning away.” In other words, show her no affection until she desists.
Finally, a form of counseling and judgement which will keep the matter as discreet as possible. Two ARBITERS. One from her side. One from his.
MERRIAM – WEBSTER
ar·bi·ter ˈär-bə-tər
a. person with power to decide a dispute
ex. The mayor will act as the final arbiter in any dispute between board members.
b. person or agency whose judgment or opinion is considered authoritative
ex. He called in financial arbiters in the area to advise him.
As in any area of justice, each side will have an ambassador and between the four of them, a resolution is guaranteed. 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤
REMEMBER THEM
AND THEM
AND THEM
THEM
AND ESPECIALLY US!!!!
All of your loved ones who really want you guys to honour the vows you made to yourself, Allah (God), Your family, Your FUTURE – the children who will prolong the life of your respective families, your community, OUR NATION.
We all would like to see you spend the rest of your lives in the happy anticipation that you began it with. So PLEASE…. SEEK HELP….. FOLLOW THE JUDGEMENT… AND LIVE. After a while, you will have progressed to the point wherein, In Sha Allah, you will never even remember this incident. Al Hamdulillah! Allahu Akbar. 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤
❤ Umi ❤ 🙂
P.S.
I just realized this article is from the perspective of the man/husband/zawji.
In Sha Allah, I will write from the wife’s perspective next. 🩷🩷🩷🩷☝🏿🥰
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