Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim
In the Name of Allah,
Master Fard Muhammad,
To Whom Praise is Due Forever
As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum Beloved and Beautiful Sisters!
I don’t know about you, but whenever I hear a Brother or Sister refer to someone as their “Baby Mama” or “Baby Daddy”, I just cringe. It is abominable that such an affronting term has become so commonplace.
This society of wickedness has given birth to a whole new array of shameful concepts and ideas. From “Baby Mamas and Daddies” to “Prophylactics” to “Home Paternity Tests”. It is unbelievable the extent to which we have become accustomed to fornication and adultery.
Our Beloved Messenger, The Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad (May the Peace and the Blessings of Allah Forever Be Upon Him) has taught us that our enemy, the devil caucasian makes evil “fair-seeming”. Which is exactly what he does. A thorough examination of American society will bear witness to this unfortunate reality.
Everywhere you look, you see people, who are not married, sweethearting with each other. Adultery is EVERYWHERE! One would have to be blind not to notice such public displays of outright disobedience to the Law of Allah (God). It is on the television, in movies, books, newspapers and magazines, on the radio, billboards, and even seen among the public.
Not only does the devil bombard us with his acts of evil and wickedness; he makes mockery of those who shun his evil practices and would rather choose to obey Allah (God) and guard their chastity. He makes it seem as though something is wrong with you if you are still a virgin in High School. Making our youth feel like outcasts if they (especially the Brothers) are not sexually active, with multiple partners. And that they are not “cool.” The devil ridicules marriage, as though it is some type of shackle.
Our babies are taught to become interested in romance when they are still in the cradle, through the devils cartoons and fairy tales.
And we, Black People in America, buy right into this unrighteous notion that we must be promiscuous in order to “fit in” to this wicked society. This is contrary to our nature of Submission to the Will of Allah. We were Created to be Chaste and Righteous Muslims, but following after our former slavemasters we have fallen off the Straight Path. And as a result, the rate of children being born out of wedlock has skyrocketed.
I remember reading an alarming statistic that a Black child had a better chance of growing up with both parents during slavery than he has now. That is unfathomable. However, it is entirely possible considering the depth of depravity we, as a people, have fallen into.
It is not our fault, however. For 400 years, we had no other teacher than our wicked slavemaster, who was made evil by nature. So naturally, we followed after his wicked ways. But, now Allah Has Come and He Raised Up The Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) to Lead, Teach and Guide us into the Knowledge of Self. All Praise is Due to Allah!
Now, Dear Sister, you have the choice to Accept Your Own And Be Yourself or you can continue to follow the disgraceful ways of your enemy, whose time is up. The wise thing to do would be to reform yourself and be a good example for your children.
If you have a “Baby Daddy,” it is okay. Allah does not remind us of any of our previous indiscretions after we have Accepted Our Own. But it is up to you to “turn over a completely new leaf”, as the saying goes, and reinvent yourself as the wholesome, decent and intelligent Blackwoman you were Created to be.
Do not have “boyfriends”. Do not entertain any men in your home, nor go to their homes. This is continuing in the practice that got you a “Baby Daddy”. You have to be completely chaste now. Dress modestly and dress your daughters modestly. There is nothing worse than seeing a half-dressed woman walking down the street with her apparently fatherless children in tow!
We have to change the image we present to the world and the only way we can do it, is by actually changing. If you have a “Baby Daddy”, admit to yourself that you have been doing something wrong. Then and only then will you be able to take the proper steps to improve your life.
You want a husband and a FATHER for your children, who can help you raise them 24/7. If you continue in the same pattern, you will only end up with more of the same, i.e, more babies and more “Baby Daddies.”
It is a fact that some men target women with children, because they conclude, “If she did it once, she’ll do it again.” They take advantage of your desperation for a husband and father for your children and use you for sex. Regardless to his declarations of love, do not become physically involved with a man until after he marries you. This is the only way you can ensure he will not end up as just your “Baby Daddy”.
If the marriage ends, he will be your “ex-husband.” He won’t be your “Baby Daddy.” Just the fact that you were actually married speaks volumes about your character. It demonstrates that you are virtuous enough to uphold the values and morals of a decent and intelligent, respectable Black woman.
An ex-husband is also more likely to take an active role in your child’s upbringing than will a “Baby Daddy.” Because he loved you enough to marry you, he invested more of himself in the children.
Dear Sisters, we must redeem ourselves in the eyes of Our Saviour, Allah (God), and the world. We are perceived the whole world over as nothing but half-dressed whores, sexually exploited in the media and in the imaginations of every nationality of men. We have been used and abused since slavery. And only we can change this low-based perception of ourselves.
It begins with us as individuals first. We each have to be the paradigm. So we can show and prove to our sisters, who are still caught up in the devil’s world of sport and play, that they too, are capable of being respectable, righteous women. And, In sha Allah (If it is the Will of Allah), we will return every Blackwoman of America back to her rightful position on Top of Civilization, as the Goddess of the Universe, overnight!