Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim

******UPDATE****** June 14, 2014

As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum Dearly Beloved Black Sisters (And Brothers 😉 )

Life involves growth and change and the more I live and learn about life, my views are constantly in a state of flux. I have come to accept the fact that however unacceptable it may seem to be, there are double standards when it comes to men and women. We need to just accept that fact. It is understandably more difficult for the Sisters because typically, the more favorable standard is generally in favor of the Brothers.

Brothers, you need to realize this and stop being “simps” and step up and be men. Stop saying stupid stuff like, “The Blackwoman is God” in deference of your responsibility. Stop saying you want your wife to work deflecting your responsibility as provider. Stop acting like women are your occupational equals, in a silly attempt to gain favor with your enemies who introduced this damaging idea.

As with anything in regards to gender, infidelity involves double standards as well. The husband is the head of the household, therefore he has the duty to control, provide for and protect his wife. If she strays, it is his duty to use any means to return her to her place as a respectable woman. This may include locking her in your bedroom, Brothers. Don’t shy away from your responsibility. Do whatever you have to do. If she persists in her indecent ways, you may be forced to give her a spanking. (Think Ricky and Lucy). Do not let her emasculate you, Brothers. BE MEN!

Your wife is obligated to submit to you. If she falls short in her duty, you must not fall in yours. Our families are suffering because of the poison that has been put in us by our enemies. We must return to traditional familial values if we ever expect to regain our place on top of civilization.

Sisters, our situation is different. Obviously, we cannot use force to control our husbands. They are physically more powerful than we are. Therefore, by necessity, we must use other means to return our husbands to their domestic responsibilities. Previously, my advice to the Sisters was overwhelmingly in favor of abandoning their husband if he was unfaithful. Now, I am convinced that that would not be the best decision.

If he strays, you must use your natural femininity that attracted him to you in the beginning to recapture his heart. Cry! Many times Brothers feel the need to test how much you care, especially if you have been married for a long time. Crying in front of him will let him know you still care and that you ain’t too proud to show him how much you love him.

Try a new look; a new hairdo and/or buy some new lingerie. Tell your children you plan to make a special dinner with his favorite meal and to give you some privacy. Dress the table and yourself as if you are dining at a fancy restaurant. Play some violins in the background.

And plan a really romantic evening where you make him feel worshipped like the God that he is.

Use your children to your advantage. Suggest a vacation or family outing. Remind him that his life is with you and your children and he is risking ruining your children’s lives.

Brothers are proud of their families. A good wife and mother is difficult to come by. Remind him of how ALLAH disapproves of adultery and the complications, confusion and awkwardness that result from divorce.

As always keep up your appearance as if you are going out even when you are staying in the house, i.e. keep your hair combed, use perfumed oils, wear jewelry, nice clothes, etc.  Shower him with affection. Convince him that there is no woman in the Universe better than you for him. Remind him why he married you in the first place.

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(ORIGINAL ARTICLE)

As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum Dearly Beloved Black Sisters!

I’m sure we’ve all heard stories about women fighting over men. Some of you may have even been involved in fights over a man. I never could understand why a woman would beat up another woman for sweethearting with her husband.

This behaviour has baffled me since I was little and it still does to this day. I have seen women cut and KILLED over some married man. Sisters, we should show more love and respect for each other as well as the sanctity of marriage.

Why would a woman take her anger out on the other woman? This anger is misdirected. It is her husband with whom she should be angry. Whomever the other woman is is irrelevant. The problem is her husband.

Okay, let’s say she beats up the other woman, drives her off and the other woman agrees to never come back. Is that going to stop her husband from going to look for her? No! If the other woman breaks up with him, he’ll eventually find someone else to replace her and begin cheating on his wife again with some other woman. Clearly the problem lies somewhere within the marriage and if the wife does not recognize this, she will be getting into fights with every woman with whom her husband cheats until she wakes up and realizes that the other women are not the problem.

We have to use intelligence, Sisters. As with any problem, we must get to to the ROOT, which is the unfaithful husband.

I don’t know anything that can change a man but Islam. The Divine Supreme Wisdom Teachings of The Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad (May the Peace and the Blessings of Allah forever be upon him) dignifies the Blackman and gives him a sense of morality and self-respect that he never knew in Christianity. He knows Who the Real God is and he knows who HE is. This brings him dignity, increases his intelligence and a gives him a newfound love, respect, appreciation and concern for his Blackwoman.