بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum Beautiful and Beloved Black Family

I haven’t written in a while, been going through some personal changes and introspection.

This blog is entitled, “Homemaking For The Blackwoman,” only because I am not married, otherwise, it would and should have been titled “Housewifing for the Asiatic Blackwoman,” right? 🙂

That is the goal, or it used to be, for EVERY woman – to marry well, raise children, and live happily ever after, right?

That was about four or five years ago, I think. And it’s so funny because when I was in High School, Senior year, the day they took they yearbook photos, I was in so many photos of clubs that I was not in and one of them was FUTURE HOMEMAKERS OF AMERICA. LOL

At that time, I had no desire whatsoever, to be a Homemaker. I wanted to be the next Oprah. But Al Hamdulillah (All Praise is due to Allah). The Afrocentric in me was awakened shortly after I graduated and read the majority of hypocrite Malcolm’s autobiography. I completely lost interest after his trip to Mecca, which he failed to mention was actually his SECOND trip to Mecca.

In any case, that was the late eighties and everybody was Afrocentric, reminiscent of the turbulent sixties, when “Say it Loud! I’m Black and I’m Proud!” and “Ungawa! Black Power!” could be heard all throughout the streets and over the airwaves.

I had my kente cloth outfit with the matching fez but never could find a black leather framed Africa medallion.

I went to college and although my official major was BROADCAST JOURNALISM, with all of the Black Studies courses I took, I probably could have also received a degree in Black Studies as well.

I never knew why, but all my life, I wanted to change my name. My parents named me CHERYCE ANET BAILEY. I hated the middle name and would never tell when asked. My mother told me it is pronounced A-Net. And I tried to justify it by my love of basketball.

My father told me, my mother chose my first name, but he chose the spelling. The Y, I think is there because of my incessant questioning and natural curiosity about everything.

But when I asked my mother who she named me after, and she told me a white woman, I hated it even more. And then, when I yt’d her and saw her, I grew completely disgusted. The only good I can find in the name is it’s nearness to cerise, which is a shade of red, my absolute favorite colour. And also cherries in French, which are one of my favourite fruits, as well.

I received a Bachelor of Arts Degree from CALIFORNIA STATE UNIVERSITY at LONG BEACH. And, because I took so many Black Studies courses, I knew the head of the Black Studies Department, Maulana Karenga, fairly well.

Maulana Karenga is the founder of the Black American Holiday – KWANZAA.

I met with him one day and because he was well-known for giving Black People African/Arabic names, I asked him to give me a name. He gave me the name of LATIFAH. I asked him the meaning and he said, “SOFT.”

Other than the fact that it was already in use by a popular rapper at that time, the additional knowledge of the meaning, really made me not want to use that name.

However, when I converted to Islam, shortly thereafter, I decided to go ahead and adopt the name.

When listening to a recording of Our Beloved Messenger, The Honourable Elijah Muhammad (May the Peace and the Blessings of Allah forever be upon him), he taught us that if you didn’t know what name to choose, choose ALLAH but hurry and give the devil back his name.

So that’s what I did. Little did I know the responsibilities that accompany that Name!

So, I officially changed my name to LATIFAH ALLAH in 2009 and that was a great day.

There are 99 Names of Allah, or Attributes, which all have meaning. Allah is not one of the 99 Attributes of Allah.

Allah, according to the Divine Supreme Wisdom Teachings of The Honourable Elijah Muhammad (May the Peace and the Blessings of Allah Forever Be Upon Him) means, The First and The Last. I have also heard him say, if I am not mistaken, that it means “All that is in All.”

Recently, I changed the Latifah to Love and then to WADOODAH. Which is also one of the 99 Attributes of Allah, which means Love of Allah in our original language and the language of Allah and our foreparents: ARABIC.

So now, I’ve been the Homeless Homemaker for almost four years and have had many proposals, and near proposals. I can smell them and I RUN!!!

I can only marry ONE man and he seems to be as adamant about his name as I am about mine.

I have a list of criteria.

1. F.O.I.
2. TALL
3. DARK
4. HANDSOME
5. FUNNY
6. NICE VOICE
7. NOT MY EX-HUSBAND OR REMINISCENT OF MY X-HUSBAND

The F.O.I. part covers everything like Righteousness, (which is by far the most important part); Name; Intelligence; Financial stability; Diet; Ability to take care of his responsibilities; Ability to protect and secure his family, &c.

2-6 are physical features and personality characteristics, but are equally as important, in my opinion. Funny is a necessity because I can be very serious and have a very low tolerance for foolishness and ignorance that most people find funny. So, I am very attracted to Brothers that can make me laugh in an intelligent way (witty).

F.O.I. also covers that deal-breaker for my Zawji, who seems determined to wear his slave name until they write it in stone on the headstone at his gravesight.

I can say it until I am blue in the face and fall out from lack of breath, but A GOOD NAME IS BETTER THAN GOLD. And unfortunately for him, I wear the greatest of them all.

I can tell you everything about yourself by the name you give me, in most instances. I am still growing, of course. But to go back to the slave name would be like burying me alive.

I don’t care if it is the name of the first white president of the United States. It is also the name of his slaves.

I don’t care if it is the name of the capital of the United States. They are the most wicked and evil civilization to ever live on our planet earth and they also own slaves.

I don’t care if it is the name of a northwestern state that produces beaucoup apples. It is the name of the devil caucasian and whenever an original Blackman wears that name is only serves to identify him as that devil caucasian’s slave,

The name, when broken down actually means a town where people go to do their washing, or have their washing done = a slavery town.

I have been called arrogant more times than I care to relate. But Islam gives you knowledge which inferior knowledge must submit to, according to the Divine Supreme Wisdom Teachings of Our Beloved Messenger, The Most Honourable Elijah Muhammad (May the Peace and the Blessings of Allah Forever Be Upon Him).

We have a saying in The Lost-Found Nation of Islam, that a person who returns to the filthy religion of Christianity is contrasted with a dog who returns to his vomit.

I never fully understood that comparison but it is becoming clearer, with each proposal. Because that is how it makes me feel. Thoroughly repulsed.

I even considered accepting on the grounds that I be allowed to retain my name.

But that wouldn’t work either because of the philosophical differences that lead to lifestyle differences. My religion teaches not to associate with devils, smoke nor drink. But not so, in any other religion – So, that is number one.

The Nation of Islam gives it’s practitioners FREEDOM, JUSTICE AND EQUALITY. So, I have the freedom to say No. I have the freedom to continue to live my life and practice my religion, worship my God, in the manner in which Pleases Him and makes me happy, whereas, if I were to MARRY someone of another faith, I may as well commit suicide because of the polar oppositeness of Islam from any other religion.

So cheah, that is why I’m still single and will stay single. 🙂

 

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم

الإخوان المسلمين السلام_عليكم

THESE ARE PINS:

THESE ARE NEEDLES:

😉

IF YOU HAVE NEVER HEARD A PIN DROP, YOU NEED TO DROP EVERYTHING 🙂 AND GO BUY SOME PINS, IF YOU DON’T HAVE ANY ALREADY.

WAIT UNTIL IT IS VERY QUIET.

PICK ONE UP AND DROP IT.

MOST. EXHILARATING. AND INTRIGUING. SOUND. EVER!

 

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم

الإخوان المسلمين السلام_عليكم

1. How would you go about meeting a Sister you think would make a good wife?
2. What is your definition of a good wife?
3. What do you think I want in a husband?
4. What does it take to make a good marriage?
5. What is a good marriage?
6. What is your definition of a good husband?
7. What is the difference between husband and wife?
8. Do you want children?
9. Do you think it is possible to have too many children?
10. Do you believe in birth control?
11. Describe your physical features?
12. Describe your personality?
13. What do you like to do for exercise?
14. Do you have a favorite: color?
15. car?
16. designer?
17. artist (musical, visual, group)?
18. song?
19. verse?
20. plant?
21. animal?
22. fruit?
23. vegetable?
24. food?
25. How do you feel about America/white people/christianity?
26. How do you give charity?
27. Do you think husbands and wives should ever be apart?
28. What do you want to have happen to your physical form after your body cannot breathe?
29. How do you pay homage to your ancestors?
30. What type of Sisters do you like?
31. What is the Name of Your RELIGION?
32. Describe your diet?

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم

الإخوان المسلمين السلام_عليكم

As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum Beloved and Beautiful Asiatic Black Family!!!

I had been looking for Amaretto flavor for the longest.

I could not find it at the grocery store (Amaretto Extract).

So, you know me. I decided to make my own.

In doing so, I found out that it is really ALMOND extract and I had seen that at the store many times.

So, if you want Amaretto flavored Milk & Honey, or Amaretto flavored Icing, or Amaretto flavored Ice Cream, &c. use ALMOND EXTRACT.

It will probably work if you want CHERRY flavor too. I have never seen cherry extract, but the Amaretto flavor is about the same.

As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum!

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم

الإخوان المسلمين السلام_عليكم

As-Salaamu Alaikum Beloved And Beautiful Asiatic Black Sisters!!!

I was recently cutting out some fabric (on the floor) and realized that
pinning and cutting out fabric requires great physical agility.

So, if you want to stay in shape in a

PRODUCTIVE & MORE IMPORTANTLY, FUN MANNER,

SEW REGULARLY!!!

You will end up with a new outfit / garment and a new healthier you!!! ❤ ❤ ❤

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم

الإخوان المسلمين السلام_عليكم

As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum My Beloved and Beautiful Asiatic Black Sisters & Brothers!

Peace Be Upon You!

In Islam, we are considered the most valuable of Allah’s (الله ) Creation and as such, we should take care not to treat ourselves nor our hair and nails haphazardly.

As we carefully and righteously prepare our physical remains for interment, we should also carefully and righteously prepare our hair and nails (physical remains) for “interment” and not just toss them in the garbage can like rubbish.

They should be collected and buried in a manner befitting the Gods of the Universe. Say Al Fatiha (الفاتحة) to get yourself in the proper righteous frame of mind and follow it with Al Falaq. Thank Allah for teaching us the proper foods and proper time to eat those foods, so that we can maintain our youthful appearance (hair without any gray and nails that continue to grow at a youthful rate). Consider the entire process a sacrosanct ceremony.

YOU CAN LEARN MORE ABOUT THE PROPER FOODS AND THE PROPER TIME TO EAT BY READING THIS BOOK. CLICK ON THE COVER TO READ IT ONLINE.

I like to perform the “ceremony” at daybreak (الفجر) [not sunrise (الشروق ) or dawn الفلق- the time in between الفجر and الشروق ], but just as the light of day breaks the darkness of night.

There is a scripture in the Holy Qur’an (2:187) in which the commentary provided by Maulana Muhammad Ali gives it a most beautiful interpretation. The Arabic words are khait al abyadh and khait al aswad. Allah describes the division of the light from the dark as merely a THREAD! But what a thread it is! It is a most wonderful time of day! So full of possibilities! So full of opportunities! Many a night I have anxiously awaited its appearance. And when it finally comes, I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. The night is beautiful of course, with the Moon, and the Stars and the Clouds and the bright lights (if you live in an urban area). But there is also a subversive element that makes me ecstatic to welcome Al Fajr (الفجر) The Daybreak.

Being homeless, you become closer to nature than people who have only lived indoors. I have learned to anticipate Al Fajr (الفجر The Daybreak) without using a watch. It gets really cold right before.  I guess it’s because the Sun has reached its furthest distance and then returns to its “nativity.”

There is indubitably a subversive element to Al Layl (الليل The Night), but there is also a time during the night, when it feels like everyone on earth is asleep – even the night guards 😉 – I’ve seen them. 😀 But I call this time “the still of the night.” I got it from the song. I don’t know where they got it, but It Is So Peaceful That It Passes Understanding.

I am sure this is when graffiti writers do their art. There is no specific time for it, as far as I can tell. I go by sense. I love to walk during this time. The stores are all closed and I can window shop without observation. I like to look at the clothing for inspiration and find stores that have items that might inspire me to return during business hours.

I look at the houses, landscaping, design and whatnot for artistic purposes and maybe to one day design my own house. In sha Allah. ان شاء الله

These are the times when I dread Al Fajr الفجر, because with the Sun comes the people and they ruin everything. They are noisy and intrusive and break the peace.

But if I am just waking up from a peaceful night’s rest, it is not as noticeable. And so, because it is so peaceful, and because it is a time of transition from darkness to light, night to the brightness of the day, الفجر is the perfect time to say As-Salaamu’ ‘Alaikum (السلام_عليكم) to the disposable portion (hair and nails) of our physical form and return them back to this physical earth we live on.

This is in direct contrast or opposition to Christianity, which considers death the “Sunset” of a person’s life. Most Muslim burials take place in the early morning between الفجر and  الشروق. It is a most spiritual time of day, along with المغرب Al Maghrib – The Sunset.

I would actually prefer to perform the ceremony during المغرب but there are too many people awake.

Al Fajr الفجر is also the time when we make the last prayer of the previous day. It is made obligatory for all Muslims. There is no reason why we should not be able to make this prayer. There is no excuse for us who are at home during this time. The other prayers maybe. But the only reason why a person would not make Fajr prayer would be laziness.

This is why in the call to Fajr Prayer there is an added clause “Prayer is better than sleep.“

There is a Surah in the Holy Qur’an Titled Al Falaq (The Dawn). In it we ask Allah’s protection from the evil that may have been planned during the night by our accursed enemies. So it is good to say this Surah in our Fajr Prayer (Salat صلاة ).

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

قُلْ أَعُوذُ بِرَبِّ ٱلْفَلَقِ

مِن شَرِّ مَا خَلَقَ

وَمِن شَرِّ غَاسِقٍ إِذَا وَقَبَ

وَمِن شَرِّ النَّفَّاثَاتِ فِي الْعُقَدِ

وَمِن شَرِّ حَاسِدٍ إِذَا حَسَدَ

Here is the English translated by Maulana Muhammad Ali:

113:1   Say: I seek refuge in the Lord of the dawn,

113:2   From the evil of that which He has created,

113:3   And from the evil of intense darkness, when it comes,

113:4   And from the evil of those who cast (evil suggestions) in firm resolutions,

113:5   And from the evil of the envier when he envies.

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In conclusion, we should always sacrosanctly and ceremoniously dispose of our hair and nails, in a holy and righteous manner – Incessantly Thanking Our Saviour, Allah, Who Came in the Divine Person of Master Fard Muhammad, To Whom Praises are due forever, for teaching us how to be clean, neat and well-groomed at all times.

Here are some added tips I would like to share with you:

• Cut hair and nails at the same time for efficiency and convenience.
• Sisters should never cut our hair. Not even “split ends.”
• It is best, from my own experience to: Collect the hair as you cut it. Do not let it fall to the floor like rubbish.
• Put your hand/foot inside of some type of bag before you clip your nails in order to prevent the clipped nails from getting lost.

Keeping our hair and nails trimmed properly is an important part of our grooming process and should be done regularly so that we can maintain a clean, neat and well-groomed appearance at all times.

Brothers, if you cannot afford regular haircuts, and I know this is a problem among you homeless Brothers, do not opt for unsanitary dread locks or feminine cornrows or long hair period. Pool your resources and invest in a set of clippers and cut each others hair.  (***MONEY TIP*** – If you buy the cordless kind, you can make some ends (slang) by setting up on a busy street $$$)

Make a deal with a barber and in exchange for a haircut, offer to sweep up or take out the garbage or wash his car or SOMETHING, but get a haircut. Many of the homeless resource centers offer haircuts, ask around and find out when. You can be homeless or poor, but you don’t have to LOOK homeless nor poor. Find some way to maintain your appearance. And, dispose of your hair in a holy manner.

Sisters, you will save your husband plenty money, if you invest in a set of clippers.  I used to take my son to the barber college (much cheaper than the professional barber shops). One day I arrived early and caught the conclusion of the Instructor’s lesson. He asked the student barbers, “What is the point of learning how to cut hair?” And nobody could think of an answer. The Instructor finally answered for them, “To make money!“

And so I thought to myself, “I brought him to the Barber college to save money.” ($5.00 vs.  $15.00 every two weeks is a lot of money for a single mother.)

And, I had been there every time he got a haircut. So after hearing this lecture, I thought to myself, “They’re just students and it looks so easy. So why can’t I?“

So, I talked about it with his regular barber, who we had gotten pretty friendly with, and he was nice enough to walk me next door to the beauty supply where I purchased a set of clippers for $15.00 that came with oil and cleaning brushes to maintain them, and kept my seemingly little $10.00 per month.

However, $10 a month over a year – why that’s $120.00!! 😀

As I progressed, I went back to the beauty supply but could not find the T-outliners or whatever they’re called for the line-up and so my son took the initiative to use one of my razors and did it himself! #jrfoi 😉

THE POINT – If you cut your hair yourself, you won’t have to ask your barber to go out of his way to collect your hair also prevent your hair from falling to the floor.

Unfortunately, I have learned that some people are gluttons for compliments and will allow their hair to grow so that it is noticeable when they get a haircut. This is not virtuous. Cut your hair at least every two weeks, every week preferably, so that you maintain a clean, neat and well-groomed appearance AT ALL TIMES.

Sisters, I should not even have to say this, but do not follow the styles of our devil slavemasters and perm, color, press, dye, weave, extend, bleach, wig or CUT your hair. There is a trend now to actually shave off all the hair on one side of your head! Or both sides. Or just the back. These women look like men.

There is nothing more disgusting than seeing a man from a distance and when he approaches, discover that “he” is really a “she.” It is a very wickedly deceptive trick of the devil. Brothers cut their hair. Sisters do not. It is a very simple, intelligent and decent manner of distinguishing one gender from the other. Again, Brothers cut your hair and dispose of the hair in a sacred and ceremonious manner and Sisters do not cut your hair. الله اكبر

Keep your nails trimmed short. When they grow out to where they turn white, it is time to trim them. Do not color your nails either. Keep them clean and even (all the same length). You do not need to be buying all the devils’ manufactured products (nail hardener, nail strengthener, shine, silk wraps, nor french tips). All of these and lengthy nails make your daily tasks more cumbersome and add unnecessary expense to your finances and your righteousness.

Wear gloves when you go out into the public. This will help keep your hands and fingernails free of the filth of this world. Always cover your feet completely. Do not wear sandals nor open-toed shoes. Wear shoes and socks whenever you go out to protect your precious feet and to keep your toenails clean. Keeping your nails clipped will also cut down on “toe jam.”

 

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم

الإخوان المسلمين السلام_عليكم

THESE ARE POCKET BOOKS

THESE ARE PURSES

POCKET BOOKS ARE WHAT MEN USED TO CARRY IN THEIR POCKET (WOMEN DID NOT TRADITIONALLY HAVE POCKETS. OUR MEN KEPT EVERYTHING LIKE KEYS AND MONEY AND SMALL INSTRUCTIONAL GUIDES OR NOTEPADS IN THEIR POCKET. WE DID NOT CARRY ANYTHING.)

SO WHEN THEY FOUND A WOMAN (WIFE) WE WOULD CARRY EVERYTHING IN A PURSE AND THUS THE TERMS GOT SWITCHED.

 

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم

الإخوان المسلمين السلام_عليكم

As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum Beloved and Beautiful Asiatic Black Sisters!

Just wanted to add that when you do your laundry, check to see if anything needs mending. And don’t wait until the hole actually appears. When you see wear, mend it before it tears.

Your family should not have to tell you they have a hole in their sock. 🙂

Also, for the men and boys in your family, patches can add a nice and fashionable touch to blazers and britches. 🙂 Check online.

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم

الإخوان المسلمين السلام_عليكم

As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum Beautiful and Beloved Asiatic Black Bebies!!!

We wean our babies by their second year.

“The ___________ Twos” is a term we must NEVER use.

It is an unholy invention of the devil slavemaster, who has no love nor mercy in his/her heart for not even his own kid.

As the Mothers of Civilization, we realize and accept that this is a time of transition and gradation for our little angels from babies to children. Therefore, we as their parents, must assist them through this trying time, with PATIENCE, understanding that this is an extremely difficult time as they are losing a connection with you that they have cherished since their entrance into this world.

She is becoming her own person. She can walk (get around minimally) without your help. She can feed herself without your assistance. She is learning the world around her and increasing her intelligence exponentially. Her dependence on you is decreasing and she is beginning to develop her personality.

This new separation can by trying for you and your Terrific new Two-year-old. Shower her with a plethora of LOVE, AFFECTION, TENDERNESS, CARING, FORBEARANCE, PATIENCE, LOTS & LOTS & LOTS OF TOYS, EXTRA ATTENTION AND IT IS IMPORTANT TO INTRODUCE SOME TYPE OF EDUCATIONAL, PRODUCTIVE, AND FUNCTIONAL HOBBY/ACTIVITY SO THAT SHE IS NOT CONSCIOUS OF THE SEPARATION. NEVER LEAVE HER ALONE.

You should begin introducing sipper cups, to prepare her for complete cessation, around 18 months.

The attention and mutual affection between your child and a kitten, goldfish, turtle, hamster, plant or some type of living, breathing addition to his life (with the exception of a filthy DOG! and no birds) will help make this critical transition much smoother for your new two-year-old and your entire family.

Both our baby boy angels and baby girl angels should be weaned entirely by the completion of their second revolution around our Glorious Sun.

As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum!