بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

HOW TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR HUSBAND

“A wife’s mind should be to console her husband’s mind. “

“She is to do something in the way of making you feel good to go out tomorrow to work.
Otherwise, man is outside looking for peace of mind.”

“No man wants a woman home arguing with him. “

“Be civilized in asking and telling. “

“Woman must always submit and recognize man as the head.”

“The worst hell is an icy spirit between husband and wife in a home where there is no peace, no love. “

“As long as she followed this Divine Law, everything she laid her hands to, He made it prosper”

– Words of Messenger Elijah Muhammad

COMFORT HIM

The burdens of life weigh heavily upon the shoulders of men since they are responsible for maintaining and supporting their families. In fulfilling this responsibility, the man of the household must confront many problems and obstacles outside of the home. Some of these problems may be the pressures of work, the hassles of traffic and commuting from work to home, concerns over the issues of the day, and the pressures of trying to improve the living conditions of his family. The amount of pressure upon a responsible man is enormous. It is no wonder that the average lifespan of a man is less than the woman.

In order for the husband to be able to cope with the burdens of life it is necessary to have someone to listen to and sympathize with him. He may feel alone and in need of finding refuge and comfort amidst these pressures. It is natural that the man looks towards his wife and family as a source of comfort and relief. Therefore, anticipate his expectations and needs. Be cordial and warm when he first returns home after working and have refreshments or let him feel that you are at his disposal to care for his needs. Try not to overwhelm him with criticizing him the minute you see him. Let him rest and recover his strength before putting up the demands of the family’s personal issues.

When your husband comes home, have a smile and a warm greeting for him. Attend to his physical needs of fatigue, hunger, and thirst. Then ask him about his problems. If he is willing to talk, be a good listener and sympathize with him. Try to express your genuine concern and then help him realize that the problems are not as impossible and huge as might think. Give him encouragements of support to help him cope with the issues. You can say something like this: These problems are being faced by many people. With a strong will-power and patience, it is possible to overcome the difficulties as long as one does not let the problems get the better of you. These problems, as a matter of fact, are tests as well as builders of the true character of a person. Do not despair. You can solve them through determination and perseverance.

At times of difficulty, your husband is in need of your attention and love. You should come to his aid and nurse him. Do not underestimate your ability to soothe and strengthen him. There is no one more devoted and concerned over your husband’s well-being other than yourself. He would be able to draw strength from your devotions to him and cope with his problems which will relieve his emotional and mental pressures. Consequently, the mutual bond of respect and love would also be greater which can
only lead towards strengthening your marital relationship.

APPRECIATE HIM

Your husband, like everyone else, enjoys being appreciated. He is willing to support his family and regards it as a moral and lawful obligation. When he is thanked and appreciated for doing his duty, those duties no longer seem to be a burden.

Whenever he buys home appliances or something like clothes and shoes for you and the children, be happy and thank him. Show your gratitude for the trivial things he does such as buying groceries, taking the family on trips and gives you your allowance. By showing your appreciation, you will make your husband feel good and rewarded for the trouble he has taken. Be careful that you do not take his duties for granted and become indifferent towards his contributions to the family. He may become disheartened about the welfare of the family. He may prefer to spend his money elsewhere or on himself.

If a friend or relative presented you with a pair of stockings or a bunch of flowers, you would thank them repeatedly. So it is only natural and fair to show appreciation to your husband for his consideration and thoughtfulness. Do not think that you would be belittling yourself by demonstrating your appreciation. On the contrary, you would be loved and cared for more because you appreciate the efforts of your husband whereas snobbism and selfishness can only lead towards great misfortunes.

FORGIVE HIM
A husband and a wife need to be able to forgive each other. If the members of a family are unforgiving and pursue each other’s mistakes, then either the family will separate or they will experience an unbearable life.

Your husband probably makes mistakes. He may insult you, abuse you, tell lies, he might even hit you. Such acts might be committed by any man. If your husband, after making a mistake, regrets it or you feel he is regretful himself for his misconduct, then forgive him and do not pursue the matter. If he is regretful but not prepared to express his apologies, then do not try to prove his mistake. Otherwise, he might feel humiliated and he may retaliate by picking out your mistakes and consequently start a on-going battle of unforgiveness. So it is better for you to remain silent until he condemns himself from his conscience and starts to feel remorse about it. He would then regard you as a wise and devoted wife who is interested in her husband and family.

RESPECT HIM

Your husband is in contact with many people during the day while away from home. Some may be impolite and insulting to him. As his wife, he expects you to show respect and encouragement at home and thereby boost his trampled ego. When he comes home, greet him with a smile and a happy expression.

To honor and respect your husband does not belittle you, but it provides energy and inclination to struggle to make a better life. Be courteous and polite when you are talking to him and do not shout at him. Do not interrupt him when he is talking. Praise him in front of others. Make your children respect him and chastise them if they are discourteous towards him. Be respectful of him in front of guests and be attentive to his needs, as well as the guests. This small act of happiness has such an effect that it refreshes the man’s tired spirits.

Be careful not to humiliate him, do not talk to him harshly, do not abuse him, do not be inattentive to him, and do not call him by any obscene titles. If you offend him, he, in turn, will insult you. Eventually, the spirit of love and trust will erode. Consequently, you will have constant quarrels and arguments which may lead to a divorce.

BE CLEAN AND BEAUTIFUL

It is customary with most women that whenever they go to a party or a gathering, they wear their best dresses and adorn themselves with the best. However, upon returning home, they take their dresses off and put on an old and shabby dress. These women are not particular about cleanliness at home and do not beautify themselves. They walk around the house with disheveled hair, stained clothes, and torn socks. In fact, the situation must almost be reverse, that is, a woman should adorn herself at home and charm her husband in order to conquer his heart and in order not to leave any gap for other women to fill.

Winning the heart of a man, especially for a long time, is not easy. Do not think: “He loves me. I don’t need to look beautiful for him or try to win his heart or entice him.” You must always maintain his love towards yourself. Be sure that your husband would enjoy having a tidy beautiful, and clean wife, even though he may not express it. If you do not satisfy his inner desires and do not dress attractively at home, he may see beautiful and attractive women out of the house. He may then become disheartened in you and might deviate from the right path. When he sees attractive women, he compares you with them. If you are an untidy, careless, and disheveled woman, do you think he will be attracted to you? So try to look attractive at home and be sure that he will not lose interest in you.

THINK OF NO OTHER MAN
Do not think of any men except your husband and find peace with him. If you do otherwise you will place yourself in a strained condition. Now that you have agreed to live with your husband, why should you be constantly noticing other man? Why should you compare him with others? What do you achieve by looking at other men except putting yourself in a permanently miserable state and cause mental anguish for yourself? Do not make compliments for other men. Do not think of any man other than your husband. Do not think to yourself: “I wish I had married so and so;” “I wish my husband looked like…;” “I wish my husband’s job was…;” “I wish…,” “I wish…” “I wish…” Why should you imprison yourself with these thoughts? Why should you upset the foundations of your marriage? If any of those wishes had come true, how would you know that you would have been more
satisfied? Are you sure that the wives of those so-called “faultless” men are satisfied with them? If your husband suspects that you show interest in other men, he would be disheartened and would lose interest in you. You must not cut jokes with other men or keep company with them. Men are so sensitive that they cannot even tolerate their wives to show an interest in a picture of another man.

BE WISE IN DEALING WITH IN-LAWS
One of the problems of family life is the one cause between the wife and her husband’s relatives. Some women do not have a good relationship with their husband’s mother, sisters, or brothers. On the one hand the wife may try to dominate her husband so that he would not be able to pay any attention even to his mother, or any other relatives and she may try to sow discord between them. On the other hand, her mother-in-law regards herself as the owner of her son and daughter-in-law. The mother tries hard to hold on to her son and is watchful that the new woman does not try to possess him fully. She may fabricate lies about her daughter-in-law or find fault in her. Such an attitude might be followed by many arguments and even occasional hostilities. The situation becomes even worse if they all live in the same house. Even though a problem may occur between two women, the real anguish and distress remains with the man in the middle.

The husband is trapped in an argument where he cannot take sides. On the one hand is his wife who would like to have an independent life without any interference from outsiders. He naturally feels that he must support her and make her happy. But on the other hand, he thinks of his parents who have helped him with his life, education, and have spent their own lives in bringing him up. He feels that his parents expect him to help them in their times of need and that it would not be fair to abandon them. Besides, if he himself was in need of something, who else, other than his parents, would help him and his family. As a result, he realizes that his best and most trustworthy friends are his parents and relatives. So, the dilemma for a sensible man is either to choose the wife and abandon the parents
or vice versa; but neither of these is possible.

Consequently, he has to cope with both sides and keep them satisfied which, itself, is a difficult task. The only possible way to ease the situation is that the wife should be loyal and wise. A man in this situation expects his wife to help solve the problem.

If the wife respects her mother-in-law, seeks advice from her, and becomes obedient and friendly with her, then the mother-in-law will be her greatest supporter .

For the sake of your husband and for the sake of your own comfort as well as to find many good friends and supporters, put up with your husband’s relatives. Do not be selfish and ignorant; be wise and do not cause your husband any distress. Be a good and devoted wife in order to be accepted by both Allah and the people.

DON’T LOOK FOR SHORTCOMINGS
It is the hope of every man and woman to find a spouse who is perfect but such hopes are unrealistic. It is unlikely to find a woman who regards her husband as perfect.

Those women who are in search of faults in their husbands will undoubtedly find them. They would find a trivial shortcoming and exaggerate it by harping on the matter to the point that it becomes an unbearable impediment. This defect then replaces all the merits of the husband. They always compare their husbands with other men. They have established a so-called ideal man in their imaginations whose standards do not fit in their husbands. Therefore, they are always complaining about the shortcomings in their marriage. The women regard themselves as unfortunates and failures which gradually turn them into spiteful women.

What does such behaviour in a woman do to her husband? He may be a very patient person who can tolerate her rudeness but most likely he will become insulted and develop a grudge against her. This would likely lead towards mutual arguments and elaborations of the shortcomings in each other. They will both become contemptuous of each other and their life will turn into a series of arguments. Thus, they will either live in misery together or go for a divorce. In either case, both will lose, especially when there is no guarantee that another marriage may prove otherwise.

Your husband is a human being like you. He is not perfect, but he may have many merits. If you are interested in your marriage and your family then do not set out to find his weaknesses. Do not regard his small defects as important. Do not compare him with an ideal man whom you have established in your mind. There may be some faults with your husband which are not present in others. But you
should remember that other men may have other defects which are non-existent in yours. Be satisfied with his merits. You will consequently see that his merits outweigh his faults. Besides why should you expect a perfect husband when you are imperfect yourself.

Be wise. Stop being frivolous! Ignore the faults and do not mention them in front of or behind your husband. Try to create a warm atmosphere in your family and enjoy the blessings of Allah. However, there may be flaws in your husband’s character which you may be able to correct. If so, then you can succeed only by behaving considerately and with patience. You must not criticize him, but approach him in a friendly manner.

The task of a wife is to maintain and take care of a husband. It is not an easy undertaking. Those women who are unaware of this feature of their role, may find difficulty in fulfilling the task. It is a job for the woman who is aware that the job requires a degree of sagacity, style, and ingenuity. For a woman to be a successful wife, she should win over her husband’s heart and be a source of comfort to him. She should encourage him to do good deeds while dissuading him from bad ones. She should also provide adequate measures to maintain his health and well-being. The results of her efforts are directed towards making the man into a kind and respected husband who would be a proper guardian for his family, and a good father from whom the children would seek guidance and respect. Allah, the
All-Knowing has endowed woman with extraordinary power. The prosperity and happiness as well as the misery of the family are in her hands.

DON’T BE SUSPICIOUS
It is not wrong if a woman is watchful of her husband, but only if it does not exceed to a state of suspicion and mistrust.

A woman of suspicion imagines that her husband is, disloyal to her. She suspects him of having an affair with another woman. She loses trust in him because he comes home late or he was seen talking to a woman. If he helps a widow and her children, the wife may think that he has an interest in her, other than a charitable one. If any woman gives her husband a compliment, saying that he is handsome or well-mannered, she concludes that he is interested in that woman. Upon finding a strand of hair in his car, she thinks there is another woman in his life.

Such women with these thoughts and inconclusive proof gradually assume certainty regarding their husbands’ unfaithfulness. They think about it every day and night. They also tell others, friends and foes about it, who, in the name of sympathy, reinforce the allegations and in turn tell the concerned woman about other unfaithful men.

Arguments result. Then the woman begins to ignore the affairs of the house and the children and might even go to her parents. She would monitor him and search his pockets. She would read his letters and would explain any trivial matter as due to his unfaithfulness.

With this attitude, she would make the family’s life hard and turn the house into a burning hell in which she would also suffer. If her husband brought proof of his innocence, or swore that he had not been committing any thing wrong, she would not be satisfied. The family atmosphere changes into an environment of pessimism, suspicion, and constant arguing. The children would suffer and the mental effects are grave.

HELP HIM AVOID PITFALLS

Wise and experienced men know both their friends and their foes. However, there are men who are simple; they can easily be deceived and would easily be influenced by others.

There are people who are impostors and are lying in wait for simple men. The impostor, though pretending to be a good-doer, traps the man and draws him towards corruption. The simple man may not realize his situation for a while, but one day he wakes up and finds himself deep in a trap from which there is not any escape.

If you look around yourself, you see tens of such unfortunate people. Perhaps none of them intended to fall in the trap or become corrupt, but through their own simplicity, ignorance, and unthoughtfulness, they are now preyed upon by the corrupt in society.

On this account, the simple men need to be taken care of. A wise and watchful wife would would monitor her husband’s activities and watch his associates indirectly without his knowledge, remembering not to directly interfere with the affairs of her husband, or to tell them the “do’s” and the “don’ts.” The reason for this is because men mostly do not like to be treated as a tool in the hands of others; otherwise they may react sharply.

Some men, some times, come back home later than usual. If this is the case and the number of the late arrivals to home are within an acceptable limit, then there is no need to worry, because men are sometimes engaged in certain unexpected events which they try to pursue after their work. However, if the number of late arrivals exceeds the accepted limit, then his wife should make an effort to
investigate. But investigation is not easy; it requires patience and wisdom; one must avoid anger or protest. The wife should first of all talk to him softly and kindly. She should ask him why he came home later than the day before and where he had been. She should pursue the matter wisely and patiently at different times and on different occasions. If she finds out that he comes back home late because of his work or attends scientific, religious, and moral meetings, then she should leave him alone. If she feels that he has found a new friend, she should find out who he is. If his new friend is a well-mannered person with a clean record, then she should not worry. It is even recommended that she encourages him in his new friendship, because a good friend is a great blessing.

If you feel that your husband is going astray or that he associated with corrupt and unworthy people, then you should stop him immediately. A woman in this situation has a great responsibility. The slightest mishandling of the situation, through carelessness. may shatter their family life. This is a situation where the wisdom and cleverness of some women can become useful and apparent. One
should remember that arguments are not the solution and they may result in the exact opposite. A woman, who experiences this event, has two tasks to achieve:
First she should assess the situation at home; and should examine herself and her attitude. She must find out the reason for her husband’s behavior. She should fairly judge why he has grown cold towards his family and gone astray. She may find that her own attitude had been the cause; or perhaps she had been indifferent to his desires for food, her looks or the affairs of the house. Such matters draw men away from home. They may then pursue outside deviant activities in order to forget their problems.

Secondly, she should show him as much kindness as possible. She should advise him and remind him of the grim consequences of his deeds. She should even cry and beg him to give up his bad companions. She must say to him: “I love you from the bottom of my heart. I am proud of you. I prefer you to all things and I am ready to devote myself to you. But I am saddened by one thing; why should a man, like you, have these kinds of friends; or attend that kind of a party? Such deeds are not
suitable for you. Please give them up”. The wife must continue this attitude until she conquers the heart of her husband. It is possible that the husband is used to unworthy habits and that he would not be influenced easily, but the wife should not become disappointed. She should pursue her goal with greater strength and patience.

Women have great power and influence over men. She is able to do whatever she wills if she puts her mind to it. If a woman decides to help save her husband from the filth of corruption, she can do it, provided she acts wisely.

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بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم

الإخوان المسلمين السلام_عليكم

As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum Beloved And Beautiful Black Brothers and Sisters!

The subject of marriage or Zawuj has been heavy on my mind lately.

And as a consequence I have also been thinking about separation and divorce that too often occurs in today’s wicked society.

NO ONE WINS! 

No one wants to go through a separation or a divorce. It is an admission of failure. It leads to loneliness and sadness, confusion and desperation.

My focus in this blog is the children.

It seems when I was growing up, divorce had hit critical mass. There were television ads regarding the new phenomenon of what was termed “latch-key kids.”

For my younger readers, “latch-key kids” were children whose parents were both busy during the time they were released from school, and they were forced to carry their own keys and let themselves in the house.

There were no homemade chocolate-chip cookies and ice-cold whole milk waiting for these children, nor the welcoming open arms of their homemaking mother.

Due to Christianity, divorce or working mothers, which was a primary factor in causing divorce, our children were left alone – along with the parent(s).

When I was growing up, there were also ads and subject matter assuring the child that the divorce/separation was not their fault.

Naturally, most children do not want to see their parents separate (verb). Unless abuse is a factor, most children feel deeply torn between their parents and separation/divorce can result in painful and wicked custody battles.

Regardless of who wins, there is always animosity, from which the children suffer the most.

My parents separated when I was about fourteen and my father told me he left because of something he had read in my diary – which was traumatic in itself – that I wished I had had a different mother.

It has been over twenty years and I am still suffering. I still hate my mother. I look at her as a whore. I am ashamed when I see her manner of dress and parade of men she entertains. I guess I was correct in my wish for a different mother.

Regardless

A.) my father should never have invaded my privacy and read my diary and

B.) he should not have blamed me as the cause of his leaving our family.

I hate him too.

However, as a mother and “x-wife” I have witnessed my own children’s desire for me to reunite or remarry. I can sympathize with them because I have gone through the same thing.

However, I would like to tell my and all other children of divorced or unmarried parents, please do not bring up the other parent to the one you are with.

Accept that the separation or singularity is best for your parents and any attempt to reunite them or pair them with someone else (except under the crescent, sun and star of The Nation of Islam) will only result in your frustration and in them, an unwanted rekindling of painful emotions or exasperation from your unsolicited match-making.

ما شاء الله Masha Allah, (May Allah be pleased) if your mentioning of the other parent is honourable and not out of spite. Find productive and healthy, educational or artistic ways to cope with your own feelings. Maybe a conference with Allah is necessary. Pray and Master Fard Muhammad, To Whom Praises are due forever, Will Give You Succour.

HERE IS A LIST OF PRODUCTIVE HOBBIES AND EDUCATIONAL PASTTIMES:

GIRLS                                                                     BOYS

HEALTHY CUISINE                                              MODEL BUILDING
HOW TO EAT TO LIVE
MODEST COUTURE                                              WHITTLING
KNITTING                                                              CYCLING
CROCHETING                                                        SCULPTING
QUILTING                                                              CARPENTRY
EMBROIDERY                                                        READING
LATCH-HOOK                                                        WRITING
BASKET-WEAVING                                               MUSICAL INSTRUMENTS
LANIARDS                                                              MARTIAL ARTS
SOAP-MAKING                                                      PRINTMAKING
CANDLE-MAKING                                                BLACKSMITHING
JEWELRY-MAKING                                              FOREIGN LANGUAGES

Just google any of these or “HOBBIES” and find something that interests you. Stay away from sports and theatre, music, and other forms of entertainment. Find a hobby that will produce something useful or improve your health, but not for monetary benefit.

Brothers, you may find something you can commercialize off of and embark on the road to self-sufficiency if not already.

In any case, remember that you must go on with your own life and allow your parents to go on with theirs. Pray Allah Blessses you with the wisdom and divine guidance that will result in your own successful marriage and do not carry any blame for the result of your parents mistakes.

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم

الإخوان المسلمين السلام_عليكم

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بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم
الإخوان المسلمين السلام_عليكم

No Mardi Gras
No Colored Beads
No Zulu King
No Fleur de Lis

No Creole Food
No Cajun Band
No Injum Tribe
No Sacred Land

No Crayfish Burl
No Oyster Shell
No Po Boy Samich
No Parish Jail

No Brass Bands
No Second Lines
No Zydecordians
No white Jasmines

No Mississippi
No Live Oak Shade
No Gardenias No Magnolias
No Esplanade

No lattice iron
No ineffable skies
No frogs, no lizards
No dragonflies

No hurricanes
No tropical storms
No French Quarter/Bourbon Street
No rain when it’s warm

But what it is
Is something true
That makes me wish
I was back home in Malibu…

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم

  الإخوان المسلمين السلام_عليكم

Sisters, beware of the white Arab. They want our honey and they use that “Arab Money” to try and get it.

They use the Superior Knowledge of Islam over your Christianity, which teaches that we make the best babies. YOU just don’t know it. So you fall for it. Look at Janet.

Went and made a speckled up baby with a white Arab when she had the BEST MAN IN THE UNIVERSE – THE ASIATIC BLACK MAN.

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum Dearly Beloved Sisters and Brothers
of the Asiatic Black Nation of Islam!!!

I have read that a Black child had a greater chance of growing up with both parents during SLAVERY than he has nowadays. This is terrible. The only solution is Islam as taught by The Most Honourable and Humble Elijah Muhammad (May the Peace and the Blessings of Allah forever be upon him). You can read our Holy Scripture by clicking here.

Sexual Immorality has gotten way out of control and has resulted in much too many single parent households. The root of the problem is Christianity built upon greed and laziness which leads to whoremongoring (prostitution).

We must also stop having premarital and extra-marital affairs for ourselves, our children, Allah’s and our Holy Black Nation of Islam’s sake.

Both must first love Allah, then each other, marry in a lawful manner and then we will be better prepared to face life together and our children will be better qualified to build A Strong and Progressive Asiatic Black Nation of Islam.

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

السلام عليكم

As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum Dearly Beloved Asiatic Black Brothers & Sisters

This is for the girls who are being courted and you brothers who are courting them…

Apparently this subject is extremely relevant due to the fact that it keeps resurfacing. Thus, the blog…

I must give it from the M.G.T. perspective as it is SUPREME.

A Brother once told me that they were not allowed to give the Sister they were courting money. At the time I disagreed. Now, I see the Wisdom.

The object of courting is MARRIAGE.

Marriages only work when they are built on ISLAMIC principles. Both must be followers of THE MOST HONOURABLE AND HUMBLE ELIJAH MUHAMMAD (May the Peace and the Blessings of Allah forever be upon him.)

The Brother MUST initiate the process, in order for the relationship to be built on a firm foundation. He is not to approach the Sister himself. He should ask his friend (ideally his Captain) to ask her friend (ideally her Captain) to let the Sister know he thinks she would make a good wife and would like to enter into a Courtship with her.

Then, the only decent and intelligent gifts he should give and she should accept are flowers, cards and candy ONLY.

The idea is to romance her, right?

Remember, ALL DATES ARE CHAPERONED. YOU ARE NEVER ALONE!!!

So, if he plans a date in the Bahamas, you must refuse because we are also instructed to keep our engagements short!

If he gives you a credit card/cash, that’s like telling you I don’t need you. I just want you to need me. So, here’s some money to get you dependent on me. Then I can exploit you.

If he gives you a car, that’s like telling you you don’t need me. So, just take this car and go on and do whatever you want to do. Go somewhere else.

If he gives you jewelry, that’s like telling you I want everybody else to look at you and want you. That is equivalent to grooming you to be a prostitute. Muslim women don’t go out with the intention of attracting attention. We are completely opposite to Western women, whose primary objective is to attract attention. Muslim women are modest when we go out in the public. We cover ourselves from head to toe to PREVENT strange men from lusting after us. We wear our refinery at home for our husband’s eyes only.

The bottom line is, if you have HIM, YOU DON’T NEED ANY OF THOSE THINGS.

When he proposes, then you get the choice to accept him and the jewelry, cash, clothes, trips and cars (I still wouldn’t take the car. I don’t want to go anywhere without my husband.)

Brothers, diamonds are forever. Which is why they are the only acceptable type of ring to seal a marriage. You don’t need a ring to be my wife. Is unacceptable. You BOTH need rings to be official. It is Allah’s way of telling the world that you are each off the market. Even if YOU don’t think you need one, the people you come in contact with need to know.

Your wife needs TWO rings. The engagement ring MUST have a diamond, preferably a solitaire, to symbolize your undying love and attraction to each other. It’s like you stay engaged forever so the love never grows old.

The wedding band goes after the engagement ring to keep it in place and to show that your cipher is complete and neverending.

Sister, beware of Brothers who attempt to give you jewelry, clothes, cash, cars, expensive trips. These things appeal to GREED not LOVE. He will pimp you. Beware of terms of endearment, if it’s not personalized. He could be calling seven different women Baby, to keep from getting your names mixed up.

The idea is ROMANCE. Is there anything romantic about money? NO, it is vulgar and insensitive. You want something thoughtful that is personalized specifically toward you from him.

Brothers, put some thought into your courtship gifts. Always, write a personalized message to augment any pre-printed cards you give. Or skip the card and write her a Love Letter. 🙂 But don’t offend her.

Books are good too.  Sisters you can gauge his intelligence and ideology by the type of books he reads. It also gives you something to discuss.

Is there anything romantic about clothes? No, it’s impersonal and pushy. Accessories included. I’m offended just thinking about it.

I remember the love notes I used to get. Love letters are important because it’s putting your feelings on paper. You know? Making them concrete. I can recognize his handwriting and he can recognize mine because of love letters we wrote each other over thirty years ago. He wrote the track listing on a c.d. and I saw it and fell in love all over again. Just from the sight of his penmanship. ❤ ❤ ❤

Teach your children how to write in cursive, PLEASE. Taking handwriting out of school curriculum was the wickedest thing this country could have ever done to our children. It is one of the best ways to express your individuality and creativity. I know it’s because of this piece of steel and magnets I’m writing on now.

Brothers, don’t give the Sister cash/plastic or anything that can be returned for cash or plastic because I know how greedy some women can be.

I am living in the South for the first time in my life and was enthralled the first time I saw a field of wildflowers.  You know I picked some. They were new and exotic and beautiful. A gift of a bouquet of wildflowers from your heart would be a nice touch and every time she sees them in the future she will think of you.

LOVE YOURSELF. ❤

BISMILLAHI RAHMANI RAHIM

DID YOU HEAR ABOUT THE COLORADO BAKER WHO WON HIS SUPREME COURT BATTLE AGAINST THE SODOMITIC HOMOSEXUALS!

BUSINESSES CAN LEGALLY REFUSE SERVICE TO HOMOSEXUALS!!!

ALLAHU AKBAR!!

NEW YORK TIMES

In Narrow Decision, Supreme Court Sides With Baker Who Turned Away Gay Couple

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By Adam Liptak

• June 4, 2018
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WASHINGTON — The Supreme Court on Monday ruled in favor of a Colorado baker who had refused to create a wedding cake for a gay couple. The court’s decision was narrow, and it left open the larger question of whether a business can discriminate against gay men and lesbians based on rights protected by the First Amendment.

The court passed on an opportunity to either bolster the right to same-sex marriage or explain how far the government can go in regulating businesses run on religious principles. Instead, Justice Anthony M. Kennedy’s majority opinion turned on the argument that the Colorado Civil Rights Commission, which originally ruled against the baker, had been shown to be hostile to religion because of the remarks of one of its members.

At the same time, Justice Kennedy strongly reaffirmed protections for gay rights.

“The outcome of cases like this in other circumstances must await further elaboration in the courts,” he wrote, “all in the context of recognizing that these disputes must be resolved with tolerance, without undue disrespect to sincere religious beliefs, and without subjecting gay persons to indignities when they seek goods and services in an open market.”

Justice Kennedy often casts the deciding vote in closely divided cases on major social issues. When the court agreed to hear the Colorado case last June, it seemed to present him with a stark choice between two of his core commitments. On the one hand, Justice Kennedy has written every major Supreme Court decision protecting gay men and lesbians. On the other, he is the court’s most ardent defender of free speech.

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On Monday, Justice Kennedy chose a third path, one that seemed to apply only to the case before the court.

Writing for the majority in the 7-to-2 decision, he said the Civil Rights Commission’s ruling against the baker, Jack Phillips, had been infected by religious animus. He cited what he said were “inappropriate and dismissive comments” from one commissioner in saying that the panel had acted inappropriately and that its decision should be overturned.

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“The neutral and respectful consideration to which Phillips was entitled was compromised here,” Justice Kennedy wrote. “The Civil Rights Commission’s treatment of his case has some elements of a clear and impermissible hostility toward the sincere religious beliefs that motivated his objection.”

That passage echoed his plea for tolerance in his majority opinion in 2015 in Obergefell v. Hodges, which recognized a constitutional right to same-sex marriage. In that decision, he called for “an open and searching debate” between those who opposed same-sex marriage on religious grounds and those who considered such unions “proper or indeed essential.”

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When the Colorado case was argued in December, Justice Kennedy seemed frustrated with the main choices available to him and hinted that he was looking for an off ramp. His questions suggested that his vote had not been among the four that had been needed to add the case to the court’s docket.

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The breadth of the court’s majority was a testament to the narrowness of the decision’s reasoning. Chief Justice John G. Roberts Jr. and Justices Stephen G. Breyer, Samuel A. Alito Jr., Elena Kagan and Neil M. Gorsuch joined Justice Kennedy’s majority opinion. Justice Clarence Thomas voted with the majority but would have adopted broader reasons.

Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, joined by Justice Sonia Sotomayor, dissented.

The case, Masterpiece Cakeshop v. Colorado Civil Rights Commission, No. 16-111, arose from a brief encounter in 2012, when David Mullins and Charlie Craig visited Mr. Phillips’s bakery, Masterpiece Cakeshop, in Lakewood, Colo. The two men were going to be married in Massachusetts, and they were looking for a wedding cake for a reception in Colorado.

Mr. Phillips turned them down, saying he would not use his talents to convey a message of support for same-sex marriage at odds with his religious faith. Mr. Mullins and Mr. Craig said they were humiliated by Mr. Phillips’s refusal to serve them, and they filed a complaint with Colorado’s Civil Rights Commission, saying that Mr. Phillips had violated a state law barring discrimination based on sexual orientation.

Mr. Mullins and Mr. Craig won before the commission and in the state courts.

The Colorado Court of Appeals ruled that Mr. Phillips’s free speech rights had not been violated, noting that the couple had not discussed the cake’s design before Mr. Phillips turned them down. The court added that people seeing the cake would not understand Mr. Phillips to be making a statement and that he remained free to say what he liked about same-sex marriage in other settings.

Though the case was mostly litigated on free speech grounds, Justice Kennedy’s opinion barely discussed the issue. Instead, he focused on what he said were flaws in the proceedings before the commission. Members of the panel, he wrote, had acted with “clear and impermissible hostility” to sincerely held religious beliefs.

One commissioner in particular, Justice Kennedy wrote, had crossed the line in saying that “freedom of religion and religion has been used to justify all kinds of discrimination throughout history, whether it be slavery, whether it be the Holocaust.”

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Justice Kennedy wrote that “this sentiment is inappropriate for a commission charged with the solemn responsibility of fair and neutral enforcement of Colorado’s anti-discrimination law.”

In dissent, Justice Ginsburg said that a few stray remarks were not enough to justify a ruling in Mr. Phillips’s favor.

“What prejudice infected the determinations of the adjudicators in the case before and after the commission?” Justice Ginsburg asked. “The court does not say.”

Justice Kennedy wrote that the commission had also acted inconsistently in cases involving an opponent of same-sex marriage, “concluding on at least three occasions that a baker acted lawfully in declining to create cakes with decorations that demeaned gay persons or gay marriages.”

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In dueling concurring opinions, two sets of justices debated how central that last observation was to the court’s decision. Justice Kagan, joined by Justice Breyer, said such differing treatment could be justified. Justice Gorsuch, joined by Justice Alito, disagreed, saying that “the two cases share all legally salient features.”

In another concurring opinion, Justice Thomas, joined by Justice Gorsuch, said he would have ruled in favor of Mr. Phillips on free speech grounds. Mr. Phillips’s cakes are artistic expression worthy of First Amendment protection, Justice Thomas wrote, and requiring him to endorse marriages at odds with his faith violated his constitutional rights.

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In dissent, Justice Ginsburg disagreed with that analysis and noted that the majority had not adopted it. She wrote that there was no reason to think that people seeing a wedding cake made by Mr. Phillips would understand it to be conveying his views on same-sex marriage.

Alliance Defending Freedom, which represented Mr. Phillips, said the ruling was a victory for religious liberty.

“Government hostility toward people of faith has no place in our society, yet the State of Colorado was openly antagonistic toward Jack’s religious beliefs about marriage,” said Kristen Waggoner, a lawyer with the group. “The court was right to condemn that. Tolerance and respect for good-faith differences of opinion are essential in a society like ours.”

The American Civil Liberties Union, which represented Mr. Mullins and Mr. Craig, said it welcomed the parts of the majority opinion that reaffirmed legal protections for gay men and lesbians.

“The court reversed the Masterpiece Cakeshop decision based on concerns unique to the case but reaffirmed its longstanding rule that states can prevent the harms of discrimination in the marketplace, including against L.G.B.T. people,” said Louise Melling, the group’s deputy legal director.

Some gay rights groups took a darker view of the decision. “The court today has offered dangerous encouragement to those who would deny civil rights to L.G.B.T. people,” said Rachel B. Tiven, the chief executive of Lambda Legal. “We will fiercely resist the coming effort that will seek to turn this ruling into a broad license to discriminate.”

Even as she dissented, Justice Ginsburg wrote that “there is much in the court’s opinion with which I agree,” quoting several passages reaffirming gay rights protections.

“Colorado law,” Justice Kennedy wrote in one, “can protect gay persons, just as it can protect other classes of individuals, in acquiring whatever products and services they choose on the same terms and conditions as are offered to other members of the public.”

Follow Adam Liptak on Twitter: @adamliptak.

A version of this article appears in print on June 4, 2018, on Page A1 of the New York edition with the headline: Justices Favor Baker in Case On Gay Rights. Order Reprints | Today’s Paper | Subscribe

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum Beloved Brothers and Sisters!

Yesterday, I finally had the opportunity to take the New Orleans Music Tour. I first saw a flier in 2015, the first time I came here, if I’m not mistaken. In any case, the tickets were $25, which I didn’t have or couldn’t spare.

The New Orleans Public Library listed the tour as one of the Summer events. At the time, I didn’t know it was the same tour, but anything beginning with New Orleans Music is a sure shot for Love. 🙂

It rained in the early part of the day and I toyed with the idea of skipping the tour. I’m so L.A., and we’re very laid back. So, even though I really wanted to go and had been wanting to go for quite some time, it wasn’t a big deal if I got rained out.

But the rain stopped. It was still cloudy though and appeared as if any minute the Heavens might pour rain down on us yet again. But, nevertheless, I found myself packing up my sewing project, and tidying up, in preparation for an excursion.

I arrived at the meeting place – a bar on the perimeter of The French Quarter and a couple of people were outside probably of my same mind which under no circumstances would find me entering such an establishment.

They confirmed that they too, were amongst the group of musical tourists and pointed me in the direction of the ticket office in a space adjoining the rear of the bar.

As I approached, a trio of people, who clearly worked at the Library (Library personnel tend towards eccentricity) exited the ticket office, one clad with a clipboard, preparing to check off our names.

We had to Répondez S’il Vous Plaît. She checked us off one by one and noted that a majority of potential tourists opted to stay home – most likely due to the inclement weather.

Shortly thereafter, a chubby, bubbly little Sister also emerged from the office, introduced herself and invited us in for wristbands and fans.

I have been needing a fan for awhile now. I had one in L.A., as usual, but it broke before I arrived in New Orleans.

It was so ironic for me because a matching parasol and fan were a part of all of my garments and upon arriving in New Orleans I found that they are very commonplace here, whereas in L.A., I was pretty much the forerunner in that style, at least of late. It’s classic.

In the eighteen hundreds up until the 1950s, women (and men) would not think of leaving the house without some type of head covering and gloves. They protect us from the filth of this world. Add the tambourine, the parasol (or para agua) and the fan and the sum is me and New Orleans.

So, as we began the music tour, our guide carried with her a bluetooth speaker, playing music that punctuated her spiel.

She began with

Mrs. Irma Thomas – The Soul Queen of New Orleans.

I’ve never been able to afford to see her here in Nawlins, although I recently found out that she does an annual concert for Mother’s Day at one of the more well-known recreation parks and I’m pretty sure that’s free.

I was privileged to catch her act last Summer at the Santa Monica Pier Twilight Concert Series and I can say, with the exception of some of her more raunchier stuff, that I really liked her, even more so than The Queen of Soul.

We crossed “The Ramp” (Rampart Street), officially exiting The French Quarter and entering The Treme. The tour took place on a Sunday afternoon, just as the Congo Square Drum Circle was in full swing.

I felt like the biggest hypocrite because I have actually come to blows and ended up in jail over these tours and here I am on one, in the very same place.

So, when I recognized some faces in The Drum Circle I accepted their looks of contempt as something I should have expected.

I was the only so-called Negro on the tour. Our guide, was of course, Black, but she informed me later that her father was a Jew. Hence her name Malika “Goldberg,” or something equally as ludicrous.

We talked about the history of the Drum Circle, our guide swooning over it, as most people who are heavily into music do. She related the history of The Treme’ as the oldest Black neighborhood in America and the location where we were standing our ancestors (mine and hers anyway ) had been gathering in the exact same location on the same day, at the same time for about the last three hundred (300) years.

She omitted the fact that we were only corralled there in the Square, while the white devil slavemasters cavorted in The Quarter…

Moving on, she spoke at length about the famous Mardi Gras Indian Chief “Tootie” Montana. I didn’t tell her how we Black New Orleanians pronounce his name. Nor what, Black New Orleans musicians call Satchmo, about whom she talked later. I’m not telling you either, because I called 2pac by his familiar name one time on FB, now er’body and they momma calling him by it. So cheah.

She talked about the trumpet jazz pioneer, Buddy Bolden, whose statue up until that time, I had thought was Louis Armstrong. They may have just changed the plaque. White people do that kind of deceptive stuff.

She talked about Satchmo, for whom the park is named, as we stood in front of his twelve-foot-high or so statue.

She talked at length about Mahalia Jackson, whose statue is about as tall as Armstrong’s.

But she could barely even recall Sidney Bechet’s name, much less mention he has a bust sculpture. He wasn’t a part of the tour. But feel free to wave as we walk right on by him.

I was stunned. And, later when I went back (I left the tour early. I refuse to be humiliated while you sing the “praises” of the Catholic Church that still enslaves our Black people today! I’m not going to use your favorite term which is like poison every time it is uttered.

Why say, “Free People of Colour” instead of BLACK? Is there any other colour of people whose coulour necessitates the prefix of “FREE?” Is there a need to preamble Mexican, or Japanese, Chinese, Indian or even Native American with the emotionally charged precursor of the word “FREE?” I think not.

So, why insult my intelligence by inferring that there’s any other colour of people included in that descriptive terminology of yours, other than the American So-Called Negroes, and just call a Black Spade –  Black!

WE ARE BLACK AND PROUD. SO, SAY IT LOUD! BLACK BLACK BLACK BLACK BLACK BLACK!

And, stop worrying about and fearing your devil Caucasian white slavemaster, who is actually afraid of us and the power that will result from our UNITY under the all-encompassing word that applies only to the Chosen People of Allah (God) and not any other race of people – BLACK!

Back to Sidney and his snub. Now, keep in mind that every last person mentioned on this tour is

A. A native of New Orleans

B. Commemorated with some type of statue

C. A master in his/her field of music

I have read several quotes where Armstrong lavished praise on Bechet and enumerated how influential he was on his playing.

So why the diss?

The tour guide actually waved as we passed.

I was flabbergasted.

Armstrong “told me” he didn’t want any roses, he didn’t want any posies, he just wanted to make sure I wrote this.

The reason Sidney Bechet, the world class clarinet player, who was one of the founding fathers of Jazz and one of Louis Armstrong’s biggest influences, was left out of this musical tour of New Orleans, his home town, is because he didn’t like white devil Caucasian Americans.

He, like many of his musical contemporaries, moved to Paris, where I have heard from musicians, even to today that the devil Americans are much more evil than their Parisian counterparts. With the Germans closely following the devil American Caucasians.

The devils in New Orleans pamper the Black musicians who cater to them or put devils in their combo/band and are friendly – always showing their teeth and grinning, scratching their heads and dumbing down just to be “heard” as the King of the slaves on the Marsalis Plantation put it. (Wynton)

But some musicians don’t fall for the okey doke.

These musicians will be notoriously overlooked in favor of a white musician, who cannot compare to the Black one. But because the Black musician doesn’t shuck and jive for the devil’s camera, he gets no publicity (Tubad )

So cheah, I’m sending this to the tour company, In sha Allah, and The Black Press.

The Black Press won’t do anything but steal my topic and rewrite it. They should call themselves The Black Su-press. Bunch of cowards. This will be my third time but I’m not in it for the money.

That’s why it pays to have your own. Allah pays me and He is The Best of Payers. 🙂 Al Hamdulillah.

Anyway, I contributed more to the tour than I took from it. And, what I did learn was mostly bad, like the identities of people whom I know by face (and know to be coons), only to discover that they are some of the New Orleans devils’ favorite musical coons.

I was lucky enough to leave the tour right before coming upon a block of family I used to hang out with (kinda) upon my first arrival. They are definitely familiar with my animosity towards the whole tourism machine, which basically consists of devils walking, riding, cycling or driving by Blacks at play.

The only difference between us and zoo animals is that we are not in cages.

Or ARE we???